OnlyFans- am I dumb!

[Atari5000]

I know the answer to this but just for some clarity when we have the conversation later….

I found messages this morning to other women on Only Fans on my partners phone. It was next to me on charge whilst I was feeding our daughter breakfast when a notification flashed up from a girl on OF. I opened it up and had a look through, he’s had the account since the beginning of the year so it seems but when I said about it he said it was for research purposes ‘I was seeing if the messages were automated or if people are actually sat there’
Whilst I am asleep 6 months pregnant in bed he has been ‘researching’. Baring in mind he has subscribed to some pages, some free and some paid. He will sit up until stupid o clock on his phone so now I think he has probably been deleting messages each day with different girls!
We have had a very tricky year or so, but I thought we were trying to work our way through problems etc.
Anyway what would your response be to it being ‘research’?

There's no way anyone is starting out a new podcast on the site known for pornography 🙃
I know you're not exactly in a position to leave right now (if I read correctly there's a child and another on the way?) although I'd definitely recommend taking some respite time with a family member or friend. You tell him you're not having the wool pulled over your eyes and he's lost your respect. Attempt to maintain at least some decent co-parenting for the time being and invite him to sleep on the sofa. This allows room for him to either regain your trust or if not he's already half way out the door. I hope things feel better soon OP 💗

Run for the hills.