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madeamessnowwhat · 22/07/2024 04:00

Name change for this.

A few weeks ago I was a victim of domestic violence. I have been married for over 15 years and this was the first time I have ever seen experienced this but it has shocked me.

He was drunk (that’s not an excuse but I’m just explaining the scenario) my screams woke my children up. He was arrested and I needed hospital treatment

Call me weak but I didn’t press charges because it was a one off, family pressure. He was remorseful and we said we would try to work on our relationship.

We had already booked a family vacation and decided to go on holiday and use the holiday as bonding time. We arrived in Dubai two days ago and he has started drinking heavily (all inclusive) and it’s making me nervous. This is causing me a great deal of anxiety and I can tell my kids are picking up on it.

I’m not sure how I’m going to manage here for the rest of the week. I know I have been stupid, so please don’t tell me that as I know that already. I just need some advice as to how to handle this situation.

OP posts:
TheShellBeach · 25/07/2024 11:11

OP it absolutely isn't up to you whether or not charges are brought.

It's the CPS.

And don't worry that you went on holiday with him. Abused women are known to make choices which are not in their best interests. It's hard to reconcile the idea that the man who says he loves you (on the one hand), also beats you up so badly that you end up in hospital, on the other.

AngelusBell · 25/07/2024 17:05

BouquetGarni224 · 24/07/2024 22:12

But op could pass that info. on to a representative....

That both he and his parents heavily pressured her to continue as normal with him....

and she also didn't want to deprive her kids of their long awaited family holiday....

And she thought he was remorseful and would stop drinking til she saw his behaviour on holiday etc etc

Edited

… and has this thread as evidence of his behaviour on holiday.

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