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Orgasms through intercourse alone - common or not?

112 replies

Cosmogirl · 01/04/2008 20:57

How common is it for women to reach orgasm through penetrative sex alone?? Was discussing this with a couple of my girlfriends over some vino and the consensus seemed to be that it isn't that common.....

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Cosmogirl · 01/04/2008 21:26

I have to agree with mumcentreplus......

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NotQuiteCockney · 01/04/2008 21:26

I think most women don't manage orgasm from intercourse without a helping hand or similar.

Some women certainly do, though. Bodies vary.

ScarletA · 01/04/2008 21:27

Top tip is if you're in the missionary, have him up high on you, as high as he can get, his head hitting the bedpost almost. Works for me anyway.

Cosmogirl · 01/04/2008 21:30

My one and only penetrative orgasm (no real foreplay) was missionary. Will try that ScarletA....see if we can repeat it!

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shubiedoo · 01/04/2008 21:30

I usually do! Good tip ScarletA, have found the same...

Maidamess · 01/04/2008 21:31

I find in the man on top position, a couple of pillows under the bum does wonders.

ScarletA · 01/04/2008 21:33

Shubiedoo - why do you think that is? I reckon it's because when he's so high up, his pelvic bone rubs on yr clit, which makes you come.

expatinscotland · 01/04/2008 21:33

it's common enough for me for it to happen everytime.

sorry, but it always has, even second time i had sex age 16. my lover was most impressed .

mrsleroyjethrogibbs · 01/04/2008 21:33

I am a bit odd but him behind seems to work for me and also it was a sure fire thing if he was sitting up on with me on top as high as possible. That second one worked every time

ara · 01/04/2008 21:36

Not really - this has only happened to me twice i think !

Remotew · 01/04/2008 21:36

Have done but very rare. Men I've been with just dont seem to get the technique right. Or change rhythm too much.

Will look at the tips though for next time.

Hope this isnt too explicit but it's so easier and quicker just with the rabbit shaft alone so much so that its guaranteed. So blame the men

policywonk · 01/04/2008 21:45

Clitoris is mostly internal. Apparently the external bit is the tip of the iceberg - internally, it's surprisingly large.

ScarletA · 01/04/2008 21:45

Get em up high! Thinking about it, when dp is not high up, I don't come as easily. Maybe at all. I don't think I've ever waited to find out, I just drag him up so that he rubs the right bits.

Heathcliffscathy · 01/04/2008 21:46

read laura kipnis on this, she rocks.

Remotew · 01/04/2008 21:50

The internal one is a much more intense feeling to the external. Still ing.

Heathcliffscathy · 01/04/2008 21:51

hopefully this will work. she is genius

QuintessentialShadows · 01/04/2008 21:52

Always.
But it also depends on position. A helping hand is not necessary, in fact I prefer if he doesnt, as when we do have intercourse, I want it hard, and you cant get hard if there is also a hand there... sorry if tmi.

But it is a very different orgasm than from oral, where he can keep me at "nearly there" for at least 15 minutes. My dh is a pro

Remotew · 01/04/2008 22:03

sophable, I've just read a bit about her, Laura Kipnis, and its looks like its just up my street. Thanks for that.

MsPontipine · 01/04/2008 22:21

Never!

Expat - well impressed and too!!!

Remotew · 01/04/2008 22:25

What about that old chestnut. "Women need lots of foreplay and it takes a lot of time for them to acheive an orgasm" Err no actually, anyone that's used a vibrator knows this is a lie, 0 to 60 in 60 seconds flat. Sorry if tmi.

expatinscotland · 01/04/2008 22:26

Or dextrous fingers, eve .

mrsleroyjethrogibbs · 01/04/2008 22:31

ita with eve and expat

Remotew · 01/04/2008 22:31

Of course, just got lazy nowadays and prefer the battery type

cadelaide · 01/04/2008 22:32

Every time.

Sometimes twice.

expatinscotland · 01/04/2008 22:33

'Bob' - Battery-operated boyfriend - and I go back a long way .