DP hasn’t come home

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DP went on night out with his brother, I woke up about 20 mins ago and he’s still not home so text him asking where he is. He says they’re at a flat in a town in the opposite direction of our house playing a board game with people they met at the pub/bar they were at.

Am I wrong in thinking this is extremely weird? I know he’s telling the truth and tbh I’m not sure what the point of this post is as I’m not annoyed, tbh I don’t even know if I should be? Just very confused and think this is odd? What would you think?

Depends on your ages? Teens and 20s was all about the random nights!

If you have dc together, then probably not great...

Perfectly put

If you know that he’s not shagging someone, then I can’t see the problem, he’s free to do what he pleases.

A board game at this time after a night out ? Bet it's like the mad hatters tea party 😆

Don't want to overreact at all but he's not ever been one to take coke or anything has he? I must admit I'd be a bit baffled at playing board games until 6am having been up all night drinking etc.

Who can stay up until 5am unless they're on drugs?

@DustyLee123 if there are DC surely he has some responsibility towards them not just assume OP will be there for them

Lots of people!

Until recently if someone told me their partner was doing this I’d think how odd. Now I’d suspect coke.

Me, if I'm having a good time!

Yes same here. A lot more people take it than we realise. And it can make someone appear more sober so if they've been drinking all night and still seem okay at 6am it's likely because of coke.

Doesn’t matter if its innocent or not, it’s disrespectful for him to have not got in touch with you to let you know he was safe and alive and not coming home!

What board games were they playing?

What board game? Is it something like dungeons and dragons.

I think as you know that’s what they are doing I don’t see the issue

Seriously? I ve never done drugs and pulled many an all nighter.

I’ve 100% done this on more than one occasion, it seems like a good idea at the time 😂

Do you have DC? If no, then fine. If yes, did he previously agree with you that he would need you to be home with the kids Friday night and also look after them alone all Saturday while he catches up on sleep? If no - not ok.

I bet op's dh is feeling fresh right about now !!

I'm 47, don't even really drink that much but can easily stay up all night if I'm having a good laugh with friends. I've never touched coke!

Op if you trust him, and you know who he's with, then granted I'd be hugely pissed off about it, but I'd get over it I think. Not sure how I'd feel about the random people he was with actually, that does seem a bit off......if it became a regular occurrence then it would be a different story

I’m on my 50’s never touched drugs and we stay out dancing til sunrise when we go to house music weekends

It takes a week to recover though 😀

It all depends on your partner really. With my ex this would've been very bad news. With other male friends I know it would be fine.

I'd be more inclined to think drugs are involved because he's with a bunch of randoms they've met at a bar in someone's flat. If he was at a friends or his brothers then it could be more innocent, so just because of that I'd say they're on the sesh

Yes when I was younger I could stay out all night and go to work the next day

now not so much

id assume on coke or mdma

That did make me laugh, as I had an image of someone in a madhatters hat rolling a dice😂😂