DP hasn’t come home

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DP went on night out with his brother, I woke up about 20 mins ago and he’s still not home so text him asking where he is. He says they’re at a flat in a town in the opposite direction of our house playing a board game with people they met at the pub/bar they were at.

Am I wrong in thinking this is extremely weird? I know he’s telling the truth and tbh I’m not sure what the point of this post is as I’m not annoyed, tbh I don’t even know if I should be? Just very confused and think this is odd? What would you think?

I can. Although I don't make a habit of it! I have a cousin I'm close to, and we sometimes continue a night out back at hers and have a little kitchen party with the Alexa. I'm nearly 40 and she's nearly 50.

I would think coke as well.

It depends on the context - your ages, if you have children, if you were expecting him home, if you’re tired and need him, if he’s on drugs or not, if board games are his special interest.

I used to be out all night then go to work and i have never done drugs in my life. All fuelled by Vodka and diet coke and i was in my 40s at the time

Depends on his board game enthusiasm in general.

my husband and I (nominally very normal people!) have got VERY into board games in the last couple of years and I can very much see this being something he would chose to do after a couple of beers. Especially if he met people with an expansion pack we don’t have for a game we know…

You know better than anyone here how plausible that is for your partner - and I suspect, given your post, you know it isn’t. I’m sorry.

How old?

Thank you everyone for your messages! He’s still asleep now, didn’t get in until about 7:30am so god knows. He’s not one to take drugs and we are late 20s with no kids so I’m not annoyed he stayed out, just annoyed and tired because I had to track him down and check he was okay at 5am. Just wish he’d text me to tell me he was going to stay out.

I do still think it’s bizarre going to some random’s house (if you’re not uni students) but I suppose as a woman I’m naturally a bit more cautious about strangers.

I don't understand why some people jump to: Late night / must be taking coke.

It is perfectly possible to pull an all-nighter without taking drugs. Done it myself. Know plenty of people who've done it. Some friends will still attempt it occasionally. No drugs in sight.

Yep. I’m 55 never taken drugs not a big drinker and several times a year we go to house music events where we dance until 5/6/7 am. Many a night we’re walking back with chips and it’s already broad daylight 😀

Only on mumsnet would a late night playing fucking board games make people leap to "he must be taking cocaine".

I stayed up until 7am with my friend and her husband playing Arkham Horror last weekend. The only white powder involved was the dusting on the Victoria sponge she made for us. Not everyone needs to be tucked in with a Horlicks at 9:30pm!

@SamW98 Sounds like the perfect night - topped off with chips😍

Who can stay up until 5am unless they're on drugs?

no one !

Recently there was a thread where 8pm was considered a normal bedtime for adults am with comments like ‘not everyone can stay awake til midnight’ 🤷‍♀️

I think once you are living together, it’s just good manners to let your partner or spouse know if you are going to be out all night. Don’t agree that drugs were likely involved because I can still pull all nighters in my 40s and I’ve never taken them. Takes me longer to recover than it used to though.

As someone else said it’s the randoms & someone’s house that make me more suspicious.

I’ve never taken coke and have pulled plenty of all nighters but am friends with enough youngsters (I am old) to know that this type of scenario is often associated with coke. And that coke is rampant in a way it wasn’t in my day (& I knew a few coke heads back in the 90s). I’ve been staggered to find out who takes it now and how many. And have seen some at the end of ‘getting it on’ 🙄 and yes they appear surprisingly sober.

So I’d certainly be suspicious. If staying out all
night is a complete one off then less so, but if it becomes regular …. hmmm…

People who work shifts! A lot of our friends do and we are always the last ones standing when those with a normal schedule have been in bed hours. Once we were having cheese toasties after multiple bottles of wine at 6am when our friends who went to bed around 12am got back up.

I think it is courteous to send a txt saying not coming home.

Lots of people do it regularly without drugs including me

That’s the problem. The staying up all night is easy it’s the recovery that gets harder.

My knees feet and back hurt for a week after an all night rave 😀

Did this many times in my late twenties and no I wasn’t on drugs! I’m a LOT older now but mn general views on drugs often has me lol! Seriously he ‘must be on coke?!?’ 🤣🤣🤣

OP I wouldn’t think this weird, if you trust him and he’s a worthy of that trust.

If he's a super nerdy boardgame player or online gamer then it's not odd. As for those people the weekend night is just extra hours they can play.
If he never plays board games and it was Monopoly then yes weird to join a couple of strangers in a flat.

Those are the best kind of nights. I'm not a kick off the arse of 50 and still find myself in a random kitchen at silly o'clock in the morning occasionally. Not often like. As long as there aren't any little kids to look after them meh.

I don't take drugs either

Bet this was something Warhammer related, those games take a long time to get through.

So you're in your 20's and no kids. Honestly OP make the most of it now, don't be too grown up.

For what it's worth you could still be uni students, what does it matter.

Warhammer? With Henry Cavill?