DP hasn’t come home

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DP went on night out with his brother, I woke up about 20 mins ago and he’s still not home so text him asking where he is. He says they’re at a flat in a town in the opposite direction of our house playing a board game with people they met at the pub/bar they were at.

Am I wrong in thinking this is extremely weird? I know he’s telling the truth and tbh I’m not sure what the point of this post is as I’m not annoyed, tbh I don’t even know if I should be? Just very confused and think this is odd? What would you think?

Who can stay up until 5am unless they're on drugs?

Irrelevant to the thread, but me and a good few people I know and we are middle aged, but we don't have children to get up and to school etc. any more, and it depends on working patterns. Some of us are night owls. No drugs required! (Sometimes a coffee I'd suppose).

I was up all night and all of the next day when I had my 40th party. No drugs and very little booze, just adrenaline and endorphins. I crashed pretty hard at 7pm the next day though. I also absolutely could and did pull all-nighters in my 20s and work the next day. Not much booze, never drugs - I despise them.

He should have texted you as a courtesy so you weren't worrying, but other than that I don't think there's an issue.

I know, I’m partial to a late night out and can definitely be up partying into the early morning hours without drugs (not sure why this thread has derailed into an argument about that😂), would just appreciate a heads up as we agree in our relationship to always let each other know where we are/we are safe if we decide to stay out late.

Regardless, I’m not angry with him- I think he’s suffering enough today😂

Since you asked if it would bother us, no. It wouldn't bother me and I'm 50 and he's 60. If he wanted to stay up all night playing board games then good luck to him. 😁

And that, in my opinion, is common sense and just common courtesy. I don't think you should do whatever you like when you like in a relationship. What's the point, you might as well stay single.

I do agree with you OP. I’ve always had relationships where we both did our own thing as well as doing stuff together but we always knew what the other was doing and a rough idea when we’d be home.

Its common courtesy to just drop a text saying ‘going on from the pub so I’ll be later than I said’ or something like that.

I'm incredulous anyone would stay up all night , drug free to socialise with strangers. I'd Def want something if I was gonna do that.

Were they playing Risk? I've done a few all nighters playing that.

Honestly?

my dh regularly stays awake until that time at the weekend, he ain’t on drugs.

Same 😂😂

A lot of people can and do...who aren't on drugs.

Such weird things to say.

Just because you may not be able to, doesn't mean that many others in the world can't.

I am not on drugs and frequently stay up past that time..and during that time I have plenty of natural energy.

As a boardgamer, yes this has happened.

Its super fun, the community tends to be quite nice (well, I've never had a problem with anyone in London, met many a stranger for games in Waterloo) and can get carried away into the early hours.

As long as you know that's what he was doing and trust him.

I wouldn't be impressed if mine did that. At all! Especially him not telling you.

Seems a bit selfish and immature to me!

Men are from Mars and all that.

Weren't all friends strangers at one point?

He may have found some great friends from his random night playing board games until 5am in someone's house he met in the pub. Good on him for not being old and boring and going to bed at 8pm. The only thing he should have done is message to say he wasn't coming home, that's just common courtesy.

I've gone back to random people's houses in my younger days and they're now some of my best friends.