Does he know you’ve seperated.? I mean it wasn’t there in your op. And
seems to be an odd drop in , like oh yeah I told him and we agreed to
separate. Made me think it was nonsense.
Well op did say she'd lied to the councellor. This was a very flippant remark regarding the husband, so who knows.
Op you've had the high, now comes the low, this is part and parcel of the game for players, they not only get pleasure from chasing you, they gain pleasure from breaking up marriages, destroying your reputation and from seeing you in distress and pain.
In fact I would say the crawling desperation is the ultimate high for them and quite in line with someone who has sadistic tendancies.
You gave this man access, are still giving him access to your mind, he is controlling you like a puppet.
Now stop and try to think of others, your husband, your children anyone but him, he doesn't like you, he thinks you are weak and pathetic.
It's just a game and you have to stop playing now because you are losing.