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Original poster

To end my relationship over this

82 replies

herewegoagain7 · 06/11/2023 13:55

I have been with my partner nearly two years, however he has always been a bit insecure and always asks lots of questions about former partners
We met online dating and he asked me the other day how many dates I had been on, we were on a nice day out and I didn't feel like the interrogation so I said shall we speak later
He has now been sulking for two weeks, been distant and cold and then said he can't trust me

OP posts:
Minfilia · 06/11/2023 13:58

He’s been sulking for two weeks?

Yeah; I’d end it. It will only get worse as he clearly has no emotional intelligence!

BodegaSushi · 06/11/2023 13:59

You've been together 2 years and he's only now interested in how many dates you've been on? Confused

Weirdo

NewMeNewUs · 06/11/2023 13:59

Hard without the full story, what did you tell him for him to sulk and say he can’t trust you ?

yellowsmileyface · 06/11/2023 14:01

The obvious answer is you can end your relationship for any reason you want. But yes, I'd end it. Those are all signs which indicate controlling behaviour. His insecurity is not your problem, and it only ever gets worse. You'll never be able to reassure him enough.

Beamur · 06/11/2023 14:02

He has no entitlement to any details about your love life before meeting him. Let him sulk.
Continuing the relationship is up to you - this isn't great behaviour.

Devilsmommy · 06/11/2023 14:03

Good god, tell the incredible sulk that as you're an adult you're going to have to say bye bye because you can't date a fucking toddler!

Devilsmommy · 06/11/2023 14:03

Good god, tell the incredible sulk that as you're an adult you're going to have to say bye bye because you can't date a fucking toddler!

Jewelspun · 06/11/2023 14:04

Sulking?

Two weeks?

Throw this man baby back into the sea and find yourself someone with confidence and dignity and behaves like an adult.

Bobtheamazinggingerdog · 06/11/2023 14:06

Absolutely end it. He sounds awful.

Original poster
herewegoagain7 · 06/11/2023 14:06

That I had been on a few but nothing worked out and that once I met him we clicked and that was it

OP posts:
MrsJellybee · 06/11/2023 14:08

He has retroactive jealousy which comes from a deep-rooted lack of self esteem. It’s not for you to fix. Throw this one back.

RedCoffeeCup · 06/11/2023 14:09

Honestly I can stand men who sulk. Two weeks of sulking would be an absolute deal breaker for me.

FictionalCharacter · 06/11/2023 14:10

Throw this one back. Imagine how bad he could get in the future if he’s this bad after only 2 weeks.

Seaoftroubles · 06/11/2023 14:12

End it. It wont get any better. Lifes too short to put up with a sulker.

GoldDuster · 06/11/2023 14:13

You can end your relationship for any reason at all.

A two week sulk seems like a really good one.

funbags3 · 06/11/2023 14:14

Is this a one off or is he always this insecure?

TwoHoots74 · 06/11/2023 14:15

Oh god throw this one back!

My bf has a problem with over sharing his life with ex's before me. It cuts but I try and brush it off as I realise it's my attachment style

Original poster
herewegoagain7 · 06/11/2023 14:23

He is always this insecure

He thinks I have had a fling with a neighbour as I got a bit stressed out when he saw their WhatsApp status , this was a year ago and he brings it up

OP posts:
Nicole1111 · 06/11/2023 14:26

Red flag central for control. Run.

Nanny0gg · 06/11/2023 14:36

herewegoagain7 · 06/11/2023 13:55

I have been with my partner nearly two years, however he has always been a bit insecure and always asks lots of questions about former partners
We met online dating and he asked me the other day how many dates I had been on, we were on a nice day out and I didn't feel like the interrogation so I said shall we speak later
He has now been sulking for two weeks, been distant and cold and then said he can't trust me

Yes.

Dump

Prelapsarianhag · 06/11/2023 14:38

He is a bad man, dump dump dump.

FictionalCharacter · 06/11/2023 14:38

FictionalCharacter · 06/11/2023 14:10

Throw this one back. Imagine how bad he could get in the future if he’s this bad after only 2 weeks.

Sorry, I somehow misread 2 weeks as 2 years! I still say dump him, and I see everyone else is saying the same.

Mariposista · 06/11/2023 14:52

I wouldn't tolerate sulking for 2 minutes - he would be out on his arse! 2 weeks? That is coercive abuse OP.

thecatinthetwat · 06/11/2023 14:55

Sulking for 2 weeks, no.

AFieldGuideToTrees · 06/11/2023 14:56

herewegoagain7 · 06/11/2023 14:23

He is always this insecure

He thinks I have had a fling with a neighbour as I got a bit stressed out when he saw their WhatsApp status , this was a year ago and he brings it up

Why on earth are you still with him?

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