To end my relationship over this

[herewegoagain7]

I have been with my partner nearly two years, however he has always been a bit insecure and always asks lots of questions about former partners
We met online dating and he asked me the other day how many dates I had been on, we were on a nice day out and I didn't feel like the interrogation so I said shall we speak later
He has now been sulking for two weeks, been distant and cold and then said he can't trust me

He has a jealous streak running through him, and he also appears to have a lack of trust in your faithfulness. That is not going to change, no matter how many times you protest your innocence.

Sorry, but unless you are prepared to spend any more time with a man who has such a low opinion of your morals, then it would be best to end the relationship.

@herewegoagain7 if after 2 years of dating you are still having to deal with all this I’d be done. Imagine living together and just getting interrogated other every interaction with another man… you talked to the delivery driver for too long… obviously flirting etc..

done. Done done…

life is too short for this.

does he accept he has insecurity and relationship impacting issues and actively work on them or just expect you to tip toe around his delicate sensibilities and pander to his every insecurity.

Thanks all
Seems pretty unanimous as well

It's not even like we are that young he is rapidly approaching 50

Oh god, OP. The behaviour will probably be very entrenched.

A jealous man who seeks out/makes up reasons to distrust/be angry with you is no kind of partner. It's likely to get worse rather than better.

Nearly 50 and acting like a three year old?

Oh dear!

If you're a similar age then you've lived half your life already. Why waste the other half of your life being with this sad loser?

Don't let him move in with you

This one needs kicking into touch.

Come on, OP, you know this is very unhealthy. I'm really shocked at his age, too! I thought he was going to be in his teens.

@herewegoagain7

i have no idea how you got to two years with this bloke. Life's too bloody short, don't waste anymore time on him.

dud you hate being single so much that this is better????

His frontal lobe is fully developed I don't think he can change now

Think of the number it was
X10 and tell him to stick it

This is emotional abuse and it will get worse. It’s to get you to toe the line and do or say what he wants. It will get worse, not better. Be grateful he has shown you who he is now. You owe him nothing. Just send him a text and say, ‘This relationship is no longer working for me and so I am ending it now’. And then block him on everything.

If you don't end it now you will be sorry later. There is no excuse for that level of jealousy. You will walk on egg shells if you stay with him. Good luck.

I'm surprised you've put up with a man baby sulk for 2 weeks, of course you can end things for whatever reason you choose

I couldn't cope with that. Bin!

Ditch him.

Yes get rid, he will never change.

Absolutely throw him back. Immaturity is intensely unattractive.

It's not even something you can change is it? He wants to use it as a stick to beat you with. Why would he want to do that? Do you think he likes you?

I think it's been a slow drip type effect

He has sulked everytime I have had a work trip as well, and didn't speak to me for a couple of days last time

Agree

This really shouldn't be enough for you. What does he bring to your life? Think about it.

And this is just the start of it. End it and don't look back :(

Leave before it ends up in a massive blow out! I had a partner like this years ago, he was obsessed with things like how many people I'd been with (he cried when it had come up in conversation, started by him might I add I had no need to know or share that information with him as its not relevant to anything at all!). Was convinced every male I ever spoke to was 'after something', tried to get me to cut off a close friend of over a decade (who never has and never been anything romantic or even inappropriate at all, we were just friends and had kids the same age). The list goes on and on and on, it ended spectacularly whilst on holiday together that I had paid for as a birthday present for him and he accused me of flirting with someone, that we were BOTH talking to along with their partner!
It's just not your responsibility to try and fix this because you can't, he's the only one who can!

I don't know how it's ended up like this
The other day I was out for dinner with my friend and wondered why I felt so relaxed and happy and it's because he was away and I could stay out as late as I wanted without him sulking