Gutted that my GF left me

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Im 26 years of age and I was dating this lovely girl (23) for three months but the other day she admitted that she doesnt have feelings for me. We never had sex as we were both inexperienced (im still a virgin) but she was actually my first kiss. Im boring as I dont like going out clubbing or partying, I prefer walks and just sitting at home watching a movie while eating a takeaway instead of going out to fancy restraunts. She was the very same as me and im also autistic/socially awkward so I've always struggled with women. I dont use instagram or any social media and she was the same but I know most women would think im weird or boring. She was exactly my type as she was very natural looking and even her family were lovely people, she was the type of woman who I seen myself having kids with and she also wanted kids so we were compatible. I also loved the fact that we didnt text that much and we gave each other our own space, I really tried and I brought her lots of gifts but she said that she no longer has feelings for me

But most women these days have instagram and love uploading pics to social media, they would think im "cheap" just because I dont like fancy restraunts and like going on walks, they would constantly be on there phone, they all follow the same beauty standard while my Ex was just "plain" and wore normal clothes that looked nice which is what I loved about her (and I thought she was gorgous)

Thats all I want is a nice easy going woman who wants to have kids someday but modern day dating is fucked, most girls wouldnt even go out with you if your making less than them and I also loved the fact that she was inexperienced like me so she didnt have Ex's randomly showing up in our life.

I also dont really have a big social circle and she was the same although she was a very bubbly and chatty girl, most women would think me not having many friends or not constantly texting them is a redflag.

I dont even know how im going to find a woman now because most women will think im boring or weird. She motivated me as I thought to myself "I have a lovely woman so now I need to work lots of hours and gather in as much money so that one day I can get a mortgage for a house so we can move in together".

Especially if your socially awkward and autistic like myself, your literally fucked as a man unless you have lots of money and get yourself a gold digger

Hey, you just need to find your person that's all - she's out there somewhere. Try not to lump all women in the same boat, and when you find her you will know. Try to relax a bit - you are still young

And in your wide and varied experience how exactly have you come to this conclusion?

Jeez. You're not selling yourself well here.

Stop making assumptions and generalising women. Seriously just stop. Your post and subsequent comments are disgusting, misogynistic and really don't make you come across well at all.

Literally what?

How have you come to the conclusion that 'most women' don't want a relationship?

Many women do. It's just not you they want, as you sound miserable, undesirable, unambitious and judgmental, not to mention misogynistic. Go away.

Grabs popcorn 🍿🍿 🍿

You have done nothing but slag off ‘modern women’ as a homogenous mass of superficial, Insta-obsessed bimbos. Let me suggest that it’s your incel-flavoured misogyny that proved unappealing.

I'm autistic too op but I use social media have an active lifestyle I can't believe you posted those comments on mumsnet you were asking for a spanking and not in a good way lol

Ignore some of the horrible replies OP. You're getting those because you're a man on here.

I'm sorry your girlfriend dumped you. You will meet someone else again.

Have you actually read what he thinks of most women? That's why he's getting a hard time.

I'm also ND and don't think these views are acceptable!

Being ND is not an excuse to be like this, it really isn't.

Have you read what most women on here also say about men?

He has clearly said he's autistic.

@Jamsandle its got nothing to do with him being male I've never had any negative comments on here due to being male,its his views on women that are the problem

Poor diddums the misogynist. Yes, can’t imagine why replies aren’t patting him on the head and telling him he’s a dazzling example of young manhood and women should be fighting for the chance to sit on the sofa beside him while he fulminates about other women.

Absolutely this!

has someone been listening to Andrew tate?

im not slagging modern day women off but I know that im not compatible with most of them.

lol how do I despise women? Its hard even finding a relationship now as most girls want to have fun and not want anything serious, Im not into one night stands

but then do you expect the man to plan stuff?

If you think 'most modern women' are unserious, gold-digging, social media show-offs who are only looking for one-night-stands or a man who will organise their lives for them then yes, you are slagging off 'modern women' and your contempt for them is clear.

You seem to only want a quiet, undemanding 'natural' woman (ie one who isn't in your eyes seeking male attention by wearing makeup) who will stay home with you but also make your life easy by managing the relationship.

"" "I have a lovely woman so now I need to work lots of hours and gather in as much money so that one day I can get a mortgage for a house so we can move in together".""

I think that this ^ is way too much way too soon. It would definitely scare me

At 3 months just have fun and get to know her

Omg some of the replies are outrageous... You should be ashamed of yourselves.
This young man is Autistic, he's explained himself quite clearly and is upset his GF left him. Seriously, instead of jumping to conclusions and saying stuff like "it's probably how you portray women,...please go and educate yourself on Autism.
As a parent of an Autistic son, I pray my son never comes across judgemental women like yourselves.

OP, you will find someone who appreciates , loves, and cherishes every bit of you....Good luck on your journey.

He’s autistic. That is absolutely no excuse for misogyny. Posters are doing him a favour, because, frankly, not many women will contemplate going out with an armchair misogynist who seems as if he’s been reading incel message boards.

But most women these days have instagram and love uploading pics to social media, they would think im "cheap" just because I dont like fancy restraunts and like going on walks, they would constantly be on there phone, they all follow the same beauty standard

How do you know so much about most women considering you’ve not dated any?

You are young. The world has lots of opportunities - don't get lumbered with a relationship now.

Forget her, get out and have some fun.

Being autistic does NOT excuse misogyny and unfortunately the OPs comments all reek of it.
OP the best thing you can do for future relationships is to really listen to what women here are telling you about your attitude towards us, as it is incredibly unattractive.

Maybe you should concentrate on yourself and bettering your own prospects than relying on a woman to inspire you?

Unfortunately lots of people with your outlook end up alone because they are so rigid in their thinking and it's not an attractive trait in general.

Maybe you should look at the possibility of having a romantic life with a man who thinks and feels the same as yourself?
Just an idea.

Really horrible messages on here. I personally think it’s admirable that you have saved sex as something special and were building slowly with her. I also think the qualities you are looking for plus the seriousness in which you would want to approach a relationship is admirable. Trust me, you’re no weirdo, those man boys your age going out sleeping with one woman after the other are the undesirables. The right woman is definitely out there for you, and what you’re feeling now is normal because you have a broken heart. You will find someone where it will be even more amazing, at least you’ve had this experience and know you can have something like that with someone. I’ll be praying for you for what it’s worth. Try socialising just a little more, perhaps join some groups where people have common interests with you, or groups for other young single autistic people if that would appeal to you. Chin up my love, don’t let some of the things said on here get you down, there’s a lot of bullies out there. As for your views on modern women, I get you- same goes for men also. You seem to have a slightly more old fashioned view that is sadly lacking in society regarding a serious relationship with someone that has some maturity level. You miss your girlfriend and you loved your time together and the way she was. There are other nice girls out there. Give it some time

I'd leave the thread OP. You're getting a pile on.