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Would you date this guy

63 replies

Wouldyou77 · 08/07/2023 14:33

He’s 41
Twice divorced
His child lives in another country with his ex partner
He and his recent ex (not mother of his child) were cheating on each other - he had suspicions, so started hooking up with women from a dating app; she eventually left him for someone else
He has retrained as a teacher so earning no more than £35k
Has zero disposable income as he rents alone and has huge expenses
So no more dates - cannot afford it
Has only a few thousand in savings as he blew over £15k in the last 1-2 years since his recent divorce on dating women and setting himself up
He eats porridge and toast in the evenings, presumably because he cannot afford other food
He constantly complains about the state of the country and how hard it is for people like him
He has trauma from growing up in an abusive household
He’s been dating extensively and admitted to sleeping with three different women in one day
He says he’s looking for a serious relationship

OP posts:
Wouldyou77 · 08/07/2023 14:34

I saw him steal a flapjack from Cafe Nero and didn’t scan for an item while at the self check out at Sainsbury. Not good, is it?

OP posts:
VenusStarr · 08/07/2023 14:34

Absolutely not.

BCBird · 08/07/2023 14:35

A big no from me
Too many 'issues'

AgnesX · 08/07/2023 14:35

In a word no

Popcorn640 · 08/07/2023 14:35

A hard no.

Libre2 · 08/07/2023 14:35

Ummmm no. Why are you even asking?!

BlueLiquid · 08/07/2023 14:35

You have to ask?

AtrociousCircumstance · 08/07/2023 14:35

Why are you even asking? Of course not.

Seaweasel · 08/07/2023 14:36

No. Was a no after your first post but a no with bells on for the second. I would have told the staff at the shop about that. I'd be embarrassed to know him, let alone date him.

Sidge · 08/07/2023 14:36

I can’t believe you’re even asking. Don’t give him a further thought.

cushioncovers · 08/07/2023 14:38

Absolutely not.

BCBird · 08/07/2023 14:38

Bloomin heck. What a prize catch. Just read about the stealing..

SoWhatEh · 08/07/2023 14:39

But of course. Who wouldn't want to dine on porridge, run from security guards and hope he has a shower before gracing you - the third woman of the day - with his presence? Live on the edge, OP. Go wild!

Are you serious?
Ew. No. Obviously not one to see again.
And I don't like the idea of thieves training as teachers. I know the profession is desperate for new blood but there should be some moral compass.

Becky332 · 08/07/2023 14:40

In my opinion I just really wouldn’t lol

determinedtomakethiswork · 08/07/2023 14:40

I'm laughing reading this. Why on earth would you go out with a man like this?

CuriouslyDifferent · 08/07/2023 14:45

Would i date him?

I’m not sure, I counted 16 red flags….

Let me get back to you….

Whattodo112222 · 08/07/2023 14:59

Big fat no

Zanatdy · 08/07/2023 15:09

Do you really have to ask?

yellowsmileyface · 08/07/2023 15:37

Absolutely not. But it doesn't matter what we'd do. At the point you're posting a list of flaws online to get others' opinions on whether it's something to pursue, you already know it's not what you want.

Pinkbonbon · 08/07/2023 15:39

Not even if he looked like Dan Stevens.

Might shag him though.
But at his place.
Seems like the sort of wanker who'd steal your toaster.
Your guy. Not Dan Stevens. I'd imagine Dan Stevens can afford to replace his own toasters.

5128gap · 08/07/2023 15:45

Is he good looking...?🤔

IknowYouButIdontLikeYou · 08/07/2023 15:46

No! This person is helping to shape the future of our children/grandchildren. God help them.

Landndialamrhf · 08/07/2023 15:47

Confused why you’re asking
obviously not

but not because he earns 35k. That isn’t a problem.

Bananalanacake · 08/07/2023 15:49

Ok to shag him if you fancy a shag but make sure he uses a condom.

GreenAventurine · 08/07/2023 15:50

Your friend/family member must be dating him op, because there is no way you’d seriously be asking this? 😳

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