How do you feel about your DP watching porn when you’re around?

[Mandofan]

I’ve nc for this. So I guess you could say I ‘caught’ my dp earlier. Needed the bathroom and he looked sheepish when he came out with his iPad. Asked why he has it as he never takes it with him and I’m not an idiot. He initially said he was checking emails then admitted he was ‘about to have a tug’ ugh. I don’t know why but it’s really upset me. I know he watches it when I’m not around and I’m fine with that I guess. But him watching it when I’m in the next room has left me feeling like shit and I’m not entirely sure why? I told him I found it disrespectful. Am I overreacting? How do others feel about their partners watching porn when they’re around?

I decided to put some laundry on so went into our utility room and then was a sticky cum filled sock on the top of the dirty laundry pile

Lovely

I think I would have been tempted to empty the contents of that sticky sock onto his dinner....

Wipe you cock with tissue and flush it like a normal person hobo.

Like User I don’t know what’s true anymore. We’ve drawn a line under it but I have to admit I’m still not pleased and I hate the fact that I can’t pinpoint why

I hate it. My husband doesn't watch pork and is in agreement with me regarding the exploitation involved. I dont want to be with something who gets off on that.

@Mandofan

Like User I don’t know what’s true anymore. We’ve drawn a line under it but I have to admit I’m still not pleased and I hate the fact that I can’t pinpoint why

Don't ignore it your feelings.

It's ok not to be ok with it.

@LalalalalalaLand123

I would never be with a man who I knew used porn - that conversation would have been had before any relationship started.

This.

The thing is @imyournextdoorneighbour — those kind of conversations have often been had years ago and with those of us who are in their 40s/60s and older porn didn’t exist in its ‘current form ‘ when many of us met our husbands. It has crept in to many marriages/relationships in the last 10 years and it’s not a simple thing to just say sod it and leave 20 plus years behind- even when you really find it a red line

The thing is @imyournextdoorneighbour — those kind of conversations have often been had years ago and with those of us who are in their 40s/60s and older porn didn’t exist in its ‘current form ‘ when many of us met our husbands. It has crept in to many marriages/relationships in the last 10 years and it’s not a simple thing to just say sod it and leave 20 plus years behind- even when you really find it a red line

I could have written your post op. We never had the porn conversation...naïve perhaps but it hadn't crossed my mind and no previous hint of it. Then suddenly you are landed with this imposition which you discover is a red line and you have to deal with it somehow and in my case it's all enmeshed with having dcs in the frame. And in my case, I am left to deal with it alone because there is no one in real life I feel I can talk to and I am desperate to speak to a counsellor.

Sorry not op...yetmorecrap.

yetmorecrap I understand from your posts that you are in a similar situation too?

Op I absolutely get you

I've caught bf so many times it just grossed me out especially when he rejects me, or hides away for ages. If you do it, bloody be discreet. Makes you feel a bit crap, doesn't it?

This. Watch Hot Girls Wanted. Porn is paid rape.

Manufactured, extreme porn on tube sites must be but there's plenty of amateur creators. Go on Twitter, there's thousands of women advertising their personal (often solo) content and making decent money. Many creators enjoy their work and express this.

@User454876584. Yes, similar situation. DH doesn’t know I know, (but I do) I have mentioned the subject abstractly in ref to threads here and hoped he got the hint- nope- it’s far too often the minute I’m out the door about 5 times a week — it will come to a head but I have held off during covid

Meh, wouldn't really care