What's on your shopping list when it comes to a partner?

[AmbsPhillps]

Basically what do you look for?

I would say

Nice

Blonde

Toned

Kind is really important

Intelligent- I've had too many that aren't and due to me being intelligent, it just doesn't work.

Working and earning decent money - I don't need their money as I am a high earner myself but I have more respect for a man with a good work ethic.

Not abusive - so many men out there are abusive.

Can think of more important qualities than the superficial

Be nice, make me laugh, don't put your penis in other people.

Honest
Kind
Good humoured
Not controlling.

Kindness
Patience
Sense of humour and willing to be silly / doesn't take themselves seriously
Height
No sexual weirdness

Kind.
Consistent.
Similar outlook. (Politically, emotionally and morally).
Generous spirit.
Positive person, who can say "well done" without adding a "but".
Highly sexed but focused on one person. Me!
Someone who makes me feel good about myself, who doesn't cut me down or keep me in my place.
Similar sense of humour.

Physically I don't think I'm bothered about having a type - how he makes me feel is what matters.

Nice, Blonde and toned are not qualities!

Single
Solvent
Well dressed

Kindness
Positivity
Generosity
Competence
Intelligence

Glad to see kindness mentioned so often. That would be top of my list.
Generous
Affectionate
Honest
Trustworthy

kind
honest
not abusive
funny
intelligent
empathetic
solvent
adventurous
active (into fitness and doing stuff)
outgoing
likes travel
yes to no sexual weirdness
good communicator
not short tempered
not repressed

Tall
Cute good looks, wears glasses
Has driving license
Owns own company
Bilingual
TT
IT expert
Likes Star Trek
Collects same toy as I do

Took a while to find him but he's worth it

Integrity
Dignity
Honest
Trust worthy
Emotionally intelligent
Sense of Humour
Authenticity
Kind
Sexually aware
Caring
Charisma

My mum actually made me write a fairly comprehensive list when I was single after a hideously abusive relationship. She wanted absolutely no settling/flexibility 😂 Luckily I met DH 😊
Kind
Good work ethic
Honest and trustworthy
Funny
Understanding/empathetic (as someone with health issues, this was so important!)
Well matched sex drive
Supportive
Is aiming for the same sort of life as me... someone who didn’t want kids, for example, would’ve been a terrible call!

Gorgeous was secondary, but very welcome 🙃

I decided to stop shopping many years ago.

Kind
Honest
Hardworking
Steadfast
Intelligent
Same life goals
Same core values
Moral
Similar sense of humour

I found all that and loyal, dependable, surprisingly romantic, resilient, charismatic and good looking too.

Kind.
Free spirit
Funny
Intellectually curious
Hard working and willing to contribute (don’t mind what he earns, as long as he gives what he can).
Good at sex and into the same stuff sexually as me.

I think that’s it. Good looks are a bonus but to be honest I find when I am into someone I start to find them gorgeous whatever they look like. In fact, my mom pointed out recently that my current boyfriend looks nothing like any of my previous partners (she thinks he’s an upgrade, actually!)

Free-spirit is probably the most unusual one on my list. I’m a bit quirky myself, and want somebody to have adventures with, who isn’t high maintenance and all about his creature comforts. Bit of a dirty hippy like me, in other words!

Current boyfriend seems to tick all of these, including the more unusual ones (free spirit and the sex one). But it’s early days - we’ll see.

Not a Tory
Not a brexiteer
Kind
Funny
Generous
Empathetic
Not workshy
Thoughtful
Intelligent

• Funny and gets my humour/strange quirks
• Kind and thoughtful
• Prepared to give up aftershave (I'm allergic)
• Housetrained (can wash clothes, Hoover , change bedding etc)
• Hardworking (with home life balance)

That's it, my partner fits perfectly :)

Kind
Not a porn addict (eg crap in bed)
Have time for me
Nice family & friends

@Mintjulia

Honest Kind Good humoured Not controlling.

I'll second this

Kind
Funny
Good with children (I have 8 nieces and nephews who I'm very close with, so this was a big one when I met my husband)
Doesn't take life too seriously

Solvent
Employed
A merry drunk
A willing cook
Self reliant
Animal lover
Not sweary
Good manners
Needs his own space and respects I will too
Glass half full
Kind

I was going to start a thread like this but limiting it to three attributes. So, these are my three:

Kind
Sexy
Rational

DHs 1 and 2 started off fulfilling the second criterion, DH2 was a bit better at the first than DH1 but both failed miserably at number three!

DP is a lovely, kind, logical, sex god

Interesting
Intelligent
Kind
Patient
Likes to travel
Makes me laugh

Then and only then; Do I find them physically attractive? And if yes....... Are they good in bed.

If all tickboxes are met - keeper 😁

Same values and goals in life
Kind
Interesting and interested
Understands what a true partnership means