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What's on your shopping list when it comes to a partner?

71 replies

AmbsPhillps · 24/09/2020 00:55

Basically what do you look for?

I would say

Nice

Blonde

Toned

OP posts:
WakingUp55643 · 24/09/2020 11:40

Ha @Shiverywinterbottom these are the things I would have on my list too. Unfortunately pstbxh has turned out to be the opposite of all these things.......... Confused

I find that shopping lists can go a bit wrong. Sometimes you find everything you never knew you wanted, in someone you would never 'match' with in a million years.

Just sayin........

Dontbeme · 24/09/2020 11:40

Kind
Faithful
Emotionally intelligent
Good humour
Loves dogs and Star Trek
Is on my team when life turns to shit.

PinkMonkeyBird · 24/09/2020 12:49

@Shiverywinterbottom

Not a Tory Not a brexiteer Kind Funny Generous Empathetic Not workshy Thoughtful Intelligent
@Shiverywinterbottom

That's my list down to a tee and managed to meet my DP randomly through mutual friends at a political event!

geordiema77 · 24/09/2020 13:28

When I was younger, I guess the qualities matched my immaturity and naiveity so they were visual: tall, nice arms, pretty face, lovely hair and a good fashion sense.
Guess what? They don't make for decent long term boyfriends, who would of guessed?
Thankfully, DH is kind, thoughtful, emotionally secure, a good dad and holds down a good job and is sensible with money. I've seen pics of him when I was wasting my time with the former types listed above and he wouldn't have got a look in. If Tinder has been a thing back then, he and I would NEVER have matched
Thankfully, I grew up and realised what was more important to me.

ravenmum · 24/09/2020 13:40
  • unbigoted
  • self-aware
  • thoughtful
  • interests I do not find boring
  • attractive natural scent
  • good discussion partner
  • good eye contact
  • feeling of give and take
NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 24/09/2020 13:42

Kind
thoughtful
sense of humour

i'd don't really have a type using appearance as a criteria. I couldn't care less if someone has got a bit of a belly or is losing their hair.

MissSmiley · 24/09/2020 14:09

Funny
Rich
Huge cock

messy123 · 24/09/2020 14:09

Sexy
Interesting
Kind

Bunnymumy · 24/09/2020 14:44

*Sane
*He likes me
*I like him
*The pacing feels right.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 24/09/2020 14:53

Important:
Generous
Sense of humour
Relaxed demeanour
Sociable

Physical traits:
Hair
Cheek bones
Good teeth

Personal preferences
Wears cologne
Meat eater- no vegans / no vegetarians
Drinks alcohol
Driver
No Corbyn lovers

WellQualifiedToRepresentTheLBC · 24/09/2020 14:54

Feels like a safe person.
Humility, puts others first.
Calm, able to listen and absorb new ideas and perspectives.

jimmyjammy001 · 24/09/2020 15:38

No kids
Adventurous
Active
Doesn't mind Camping once in a while
Good job
Own house
Sociable
No dramas
Kind funny drunk

Wherearemymarbles · 24/09/2020 17:03

Nice firm carrot
No cauliflower between the ears
Well Bred
Succulent bit of rump
Plenty of ham on the leg and forearm

And if i can get a BOGOF so much the better
Smile

Readandwalk · 24/09/2020 17:05

Solvent.
Single.
Funny

SimonJT · 24/09/2020 17:11

My must haves were
-naturally kind and considerate
-empathetic which I guess is similar to above
-loyal
-has a drive, I wouldn’t have to be interested in the ‘thing’
-active
-social
-similar life goals
-can put up with me

I got lucky and did pretty good, him not so much 😂

perfumeistooexpensive · 24/09/2020 17:33

Kind and thoughtful
Same political views
Faithful
Never been violent
Never makes nasty comments
Prepared to be a brilliant stepdad
No hang ups about exes
Fun
Loves to cook, iron and do the washing up
Practical
Likes to do the gardening
Great at DIY

Oh, I've just described my DH!

JaffaCake70 · 24/09/2020 18:12

Intelligent conversationalist.
GSOH.
Trustworthy and supportive.
Good personal hygiene
Must have hair (I'm afraid I don't go for bald men)
Quite slim (not into muscular or chubby men. Vacuous I know. Sorry.
Must have a kind, empathetic heart.
Generous with time, emotions and money (as I am generous with all of these things).
Must have untied himself from his Mother's, and all ex's, apron strings....

...but having said that...
...Mustn't bad mouth ex's (it's a red flag ladies).
Must have a healthy relationship with any ex that he has children with, and with said children.
Must have job, own living space and car.
Mustn't make lewd or derogatory comments about women.

Must be respectful towards women. Myself, his Mother and any ex's included.
Must not smoke or do any drugs, including weed.
Mustn't drink to excess. It's all about moderation.
Must not watch excessive porn, as it often makes a man extremely lacking in the bedroom area.. I've had my fill of boring bonks, or no bonks at all!!
Torys need not apply.
Racists, Bigots, Homophobes and Sexist Pigs need not apply.
Mustn't live too far away. I've tried long distance, it doesn't work for me.
Lust for life. Likes travelling, day trips, outdoor activities, adventuring. hiking etc
Likes watching documentaries and decent movies.
Musicians, Writers, Artists all welcome :-)
Self sufficient.
MUST LIKE CATS!!
Mustn't be controlling, jealous, short tempered, opinionated, moany, complainy or domineering.
Mustn't be socially or emotionally stilted, must be able to have a conversation about the relationship.
Must respect that I'm a free spirit, I like my own space and doing my own thing. I don't like to be 'kept tabs' on.
Must enjoy and be willing to participate in DIY (LOL).
Mustn't be adverse to cooking, hoovering, cleaning the toilet, doing his own laundry, putting the rubbish out etc etc.
Must be willing to put in as much effort as I do....
Must be willing to help me as much as he helps friends and family. I no longer want to come last on my partner's list.
Definitely no hint of violence, towards me or anybody else.

This is why my POF profile reads like War and Peace.

This is also why I am still single at 50 LOL :-D

messy123 · 24/09/2020 18:46

@JaffaCake70 Love it! Grin

If i was being more picky I'd add:

Left wing
Cat person
Driver
Willing to do fair share of housework
Nice bum

Rybvita · 24/09/2020 19:12

Genuine kindness and empathy (I.e. NOT charm, though if it's a natural rather than a false part of their personality to get what they want then that's lovely)

Physically attractive to me

Same moral values as me

Good humour and easy going

Responsible (can't stand those 'fun' but irresponsible/uncaring men who a lot of women seem to love going for then complain when said man treats them badly down the line)

Interested in the deeper aspects of life, can have a close connection and deep conversations with them

seensome · 24/09/2020 19:17

Tall
Must drive (being with a non driver so annoying)
Generous
Caring
Loyal
Cat lover
Good humour
Charming unlike the last one
Affectionate
Nice big hands and big cock

Sunnydaysstillhere · 24/09/2020 19:18

Good kisser
Willing /able in bed
Honest
Thoughtful
Animal lover
Dc friendly

Browneyesbigbum · 24/09/2020 19:18

Open
Honest
Kind
Security
High sex drive
Tall
Has hair on head
Clean and tidy in appearance
Funny
Fun to be with
Willing to try new experiences
Likes to travel
Flexible
Approachable
Dependable
Has opinions that he can substantiate

Browneyesbigbum · 24/09/2020 19:18

Security was sexy .....

bigbeautwoman · 24/09/2020 19:21

Good teeth
Big dick
filthy in bed

Livandme · 24/09/2020 20:13

Kind and caring
Thoughtful
Generous (with time)
Funny
Good in bed
Good at kissing
Passionate (about somethings, perhaps even me!)
Affectionate
Emotionally available
Good driver and must be willing to drive
Solvent
Similar morals to myself
Hygienic
DIY-er
Driven
Willing to try new things / go places
Animal and child friendly
Active