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What's on your shopping list when it comes to a partner?

71 replies

AmbsPhillps · 24/09/2020 00:55

Basically what do you look for?

I would say

Nice

Blonde

Toned

OP posts:
screamingchild · 24/09/2020 21:05

Kind
Supportive
Empathic
Good work ethic
Outdoorsy
Respects women

ChavvySexPond · 24/09/2020 21:08

Kind

Funny

Intelligent

If he has those three it takes care of pretty much everything else I care about.

Rocaille · 24/09/2020 22:45

Tall, muscular, well hung.

Also clever, funny, masculine, good at building stuff. Knows how to lay it down.

No porn-hounds or misers please.

meg70 · 24/09/2020 23:08

Kind. End of

StormBaby · 24/09/2020 23:13

Emotionally intelligent
Honest
Passionate
Brave

bigbeautwoman · 24/09/2020 23:55

@JaffaCake70

Intelligent conversationalist. GSOH. Trustworthy and supportive. Good personal hygiene Must have hair (I'm afraid I don't go for bald men) Quite slim (not into muscular or chubby men. Vacuous I know. Sorry. Must have a kind, empathetic heart. Generous with time, emotions and money (as I am generous with all of these things). Must have untied himself from his Mother's, and all ex's, apron strings.... ...but having said that... ...Mustn't bad mouth ex's (it's a red flag ladies). Must have a healthy relationship with any ex that he has children with, and with said children. Must have job, own living space and car. Mustn't make lewd or derogatory comments about women. Must be respectful towards women. Myself, his Mother and any ex's included. Must not smoke or do any drugs, including weed. Mustn't drink to excess. It's all about moderation. Must not watch excessive porn, as it often makes a man extremely lacking in the bedroom area.. I've had my fill of boring bonks, or no bonks at all!! Torys need not apply. Racists, Bigots, Homophobes and Sexist Pigs need not apply. Mustn't live too far away. I've tried long distance, it doesn't work for me. Lust for life. Likes travelling, day trips, outdoor activities, adventuring. hiking etc Likes watching documentaries and decent movies. Musicians, Writers, Artists all welcome :-) Self sufficient. MUST LIKE CATS!! Mustn't be controlling, jealous, short tempered, opinionated, moany, complainy or domineering. Mustn't be socially or emotionally stilted, must be able to have a conversation about the relationship. Must respect that I'm a free spirit, I like my own space and doing my own thing. I don't like to be 'kept tabs' on. Must enjoy and be willing to participate in DIY (LOL). Mustn't be adverse to cooking, hoovering, cleaning the toilet, doing his own laundry, putting the rubbish out etc etc. Must be willing to put in as much effort as I do.... Must be willing to help me as much as he helps friends and family. I no longer want to come last on my partner's list. Definitely no hint of violence, towards me or anybody else.

This is why my POF profile reads like War and Peace.

This is also why I am still single at 50 LOL :-D

I don’t think this man exists
CatRamsey · 25/09/2020 00:02

Remembering the little things mentioned in conversation is a big one for me. It shows they're paying attention

Sweet
Family oriented
Shares the same ideas about certain things as me (like how we'd choose parent)
Sensible with money but not tight
Be able to catch spiders Grin.
Can be a little bit handy around the house

OhTheRoses · 25/09/2020 00:04

Kind
Honest
Loyal
Moral
Intelligent
Ambitious
Hard working
Clean and tidy

CatRamsey · 25/09/2020 00:06

Just reading through the replies and can't believe I missed out:

  • must like cats!!!!
gindinner · 25/09/2020 00:10

Intelligent
Fit and healthy
Non-fussy eater
Good looking
Fit body
Taller than me

Krazynights34 · 25/09/2020 00:23

Still hoping one day (!) if I get rid of my “D”H

  • truly romantic- not just as a red flag
  • makes me laugh (not just me making him laugh)
  • cares about me and my DD
  • has sex with his eyes open
  • isn’t gay (bisexual is fine)
  • doesn’t lie
  • doesn’t depend on me to fight his battles

Ok, now I’m depressed

Hopeisnotastrategy · 25/09/2020 06:56

A grown up.

1moreRep · 25/09/2020 07:02

Sense of humour
Financially secure
Sporty- has a sport they are passionate about and spends time doing
Iikes children but doesn't them (as in has them already as so do I)
Confident
Loving,
Enjoys intimacy
Clean and tidy, contributes 50% of cleaning etc
Independent
Faithful
Loyal

lojoko · 25/09/2020 07:20

I'm actually not looking. I absolutely cannot be bothered with men any more. I feel tired just at the thought of it.

But if I were: Cheerful, honest, strong, grown up. And tall! Wink

Mintjulia · 25/09/2020 09:30

@lojoko I could have written that Smile

gindinner · 25/09/2020 10:31

I must add, no loud nose breathing

Rocaille · 25/09/2020 12:16

I must add, no loud nose breathing

Yes! And no clicky jaw or horrible mastication sounds when he eats. 😡

ChiaraRimini · 25/09/2020 12:48

From trial and error I have found the following:
-respects other people
-looks after himself and his place -good grooming, doesn't live in a shit heap
-independent (financially and emotionallyno cocklodgers or man-children pls)
-genuinely interested in me as a person and making me happy, both in bed and outside
-interested in the world, current affairs, can have hobbies but not obsessions

CandidaAlbicans2 · 25/09/2020 19:46
  • I must find him physically attractive
  • We must be sexually compatible
  • Affectionate
  • Animal lover, even the less popular ones
  • Must NOT own cats unless they are kept indoors or in his own garden
  • We must be able to chat easily and laugh a lot
  • Takes his health seriously
  • No fussy eaters
  • House trained
  • Emotionally intelligent
  • Empathic
  • Must have his own car and be a decent driver
  • Not have a massive cock
  • Financially secure

But as I’m not looking for a life partner only a sexual one my list is:

  • I must find him physically attractive. Tall, slim, toned, fit
  • We must be sexually compatible
  • Not have a massive cock
  • We must be able to chat easily and laugh a lot (in between all the shagging)
lojoko · 26/09/2020 18:37

@Mintjulia Wine clink

Potterpotterpotter · 26/09/2020 19:56

Tall but Not slim. Well built
Well hung
Good looking
Financial secure / have own house & car etc
Stable mental health history
Funny
Loyal
Trustworthy

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