So for those of us not cohabiting.....

[MozzchopsThirty]

Are these the only options???

If I go and live with my boyfriend, but we both go to separate places of work, how will that work?
How is it any different to me being here and him being there and me driving over?

Yes we are in lock down.
Oh and its different because you will then be risking 2 households rather than 1

I'm struggling too.

DP stays over a lot. I'm WFH, he isn't but only works with 1 person and provisions are in place for the (few now) public. He lives in a house share with 2 people who are WFH but over the next 3 weeks is only due to be there for a handful of nights anyway as he's got some AL that he was staying here for. I'm struggling to see how it's a problem and when it's just me and my DCs cooped up I'm craving adult contact as I end up going a bit mad and I don't even have work to get me out, just a walk around the block.

We are on lockdown we need to do this properly to save lives

OMG what do people not understand ?

It's really not difficult to maintain contact with a partner during lockdown. You text, phone, FaceTime , online gaming together etc

Yeah, I don't think you're understanding the severity of it. Stay separate until it's over.

We agreed to go into self isolation in our own homes.

It's not easy but we are coping. This too shall pass. We have to try to be unselfish and do is requested for the good of everyone.

Into every life a little rain must fall.

It's only for a few weeks. Shit happens.

Lets see, if one of you gets it and infects tge other one then the other one will infect all their colleagues. Who will then spread it further. Do you see the problem now? You'd be risking the health of all your colleagues and their families. Are their lives worth it?

I have been with my fiance for 5 years. If we were in lockdown together I think we would be single soon after! We are not going to see each other . He is still working in essential services so is at greater risk and could pass it to me and my asthmatic teens. My granny survived with my grandfather in a Japanese POW camp so we will just get on with it.
I'm horribly lonely too. Teens are crap company

FFS, you don't need to see him. We're all separated from people we love, for the benefit of them, ourselves and the whole nation. Suck it up and do the right thing.

Hey @MozzchopsThirty I hear you. All these people repeating ‘OMG what is it you understand about lockdown.. get on with it...’ type stuff.

We get lockdown. We understand.

But seriously it’s gonna be so difficult for those non cohabitating couples. This could go on for months, like 6 months, maybe more. So before people tell those couples to suck it up, perhaps consider doing so in a more mindful and sensitive way.

Some couples have had to say goodbye.

One of my friends has been with their partner for years and she has no idea when she will see him again. She’s deeply upset. It’s truly awful.

Hugs to all of those people. Hugs to everyone xx

I don’t see the big deal. I desperately miss my boyfriend. He lives on his own and has been working from home. But he still has to do food shopping - he went this morning. I live with my dc and have to do the odd bit of shopping too. Neither of us want to infect the other so we’ll just face time until this is over.

What makes people so certain this will last a matter of just weeks??

I'm not sure when I'll be seeing my bloke next, so you're off beam, minionmomma. We have to suck it up.

Whether it last weeks or not we have to do it. I live on my own. If I had known this was coming would have gone to stay with friends a few weeks ago. China have been locked down for longer than 3 weeks and have got through it

No I don’t believe I am off beam @category12

Here’s why:

Person — “I feel anxious and unsure about what’s happening”
Response — “just suck it it. Get on with it like the rest of us”

Or

Person — “I feel anxious and unsure about what’s happening”
Response — “I hear you. I’m really sorry you feel this way. We are all uncertain about the future. Sending you a virtual hug”

The difference? It’s called kindness.

It's actually:

Person1: trying to find a loophole which could mean infecting other people and killing them because the lockdown is slightly inconvenient.

Person2: your decision could kill me and would make the lockdown last longer. Your decision is only about yourself but it does have an effect on the entire population, so please be sensible because it's serious.

I don't think the responses have been unkind. Sometimes it's better to be fairly practical and not feed into anxiety.

Also, op did not state anxiety, but was asking a practical question.

@Dzundza how about you suck it up and get over it - some people are trying to come to terms with not seeing their partners

@category12 there are numerous threads about this very issue in this forum rn snd anxieties in general are high. I hate the phrase ‘suck it up’. It’s dismissive and just unnecessary.

Nobody knows when it’s going to be over. I certainly don’t envisage it’s just a matter of weeks. I think it will be a lot longer.

All I am saying is that people could be more sensitive in how they respond to others.

Hey hang on a minute, from next week I have to go back to work in ITU (my old job)

So I think I have a good idea what lockdown means and what I'll be facing every day.

I already have to hand my children over to their father for the foreseeable future as he doesn't want them at risk and I agree with that. They are safer there.

So thanks for the support and kindness to those who'll be saving lives and would actually like to go home to the person they love.

But you're not the thread police 🚨 and again, also I don't think it's always helpful or healthy to feed into the negative. It's tough on everybody. Some people benefit more from "chin up and carry on" and variations thereof, than they do from "aww, isn't it awful" and variations thereof. Op needs to take what she needs from the style that suits her.

@category12 you’re not the thread police either are you.

And ‘chin up and carry’ is worlds apart from ‘suck it up’.

I'm not the one who was complaining about how other people are posting, minionmomma.