Partner no longer finds me attractive, I don’t know what to do.

[Unknownn5]

We’ve been together for 11 years, engaged and have children and own our own home. My partner has said he’s no longer attracted to me, as I’ve put on weight and I haven’t got the right attitude to loose the weight. Am I being unreasonable? Should I really put effort in to loosing weight so he finds me attractive again, at the minute I can’t get past how upset I am that my weight gain could actually end our relationship, but my logic tells me that I should loose weight and put everything I have into fixing this so he’s once again happy in our relationship, but my heart is broken at the fact that he thinks looks are more important than what else we have. I don’t even know if this post makes sense sorry, or really what it is I’m actually asking. Do I start trying to loose weight to make him happy, or do I hope that this is just a rut and we will be back to ourselves soon? Thanks I’m advance.

@BusterGonad

Sorry hadn’t read both your posts properly!

If he no longer finds his partner attractive, he's entitled to feel that way.

I think he was right to say it. So many times on here we hear about people being dumped and no idea why

He communicated how he feels. If that makes him shallow and cruel, well that's up to the op to decide if she wants to stay with him.

It's a sensitive topic but no point him saying nothing and the relationship possibly dying a slow death and the op not knowing why