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Feel sick

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SulaBear · 27/10/2019 07:36

Getting in bed last night. Promise on the cards, all dressed up for the occasion. Long standing issue with him being obsessed with trusting me through no fault of my own.

He asked who had liked my recent posts on insta, also asking questions if I've ever done anything on my phone I shouldn't etc. Told him I'm no longer in the mood and he does his nut. I've explained to him before it's quickest way to turn me off! Goes on about how important it is to do it last night as he must have it again Monday. I said I'm not doing it I don't want to. Then he tells me I better to it tomorrow else it'll be 3 days and Monday as well as Monday very important to him. He can't even tell me why Monday so important?

I told him it's not acceptable but he doesn't get it. He told me I'm unacceptable for leaving things like that before we went to sleep even knowing full well I've told him it's not acceptable to ask the questions he does. He wants to know what I'm going to do to make it right. I've had a bad stomach all night through stress.

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BumbleBeee69 · 08/11/2019 17:32

I'd be calling the Police. I feel suffocated just reading this..

1Wildheartsease · 09/11/2019 09:52

He won't change. Is the way he is now acceptable to you?

Of course he is gas-lighting you with his argument about things always being your way. You have the right to say no to sex-anytime. So does he. You are equals in this. Neither of you has the right to insist on sex.

A loving partner would want to look after you when you have a UTI or lost a night's sleep. He wouldn't see it as an opportunity to hector you into sex and feeling bad about yourself.

He wants to possess you and to control you and have sex with you. This is not love.

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