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Found photos of my DP’s colleague on his phone

64 replies

Lolly9111 · 08/06/2019 18:04

Yes, I was looking through his photos - not snooping, just scrolling back to find some old photos of our dog when he was a puppy. I found photo on my DP’s phone of a work colleague who I know he fancies (he’s said in the past he thinks she’s pretty) - not ones he had taken or she had sent him, but ones he’d got off her social media of her in a bikini (very skimpy) that he’d screenshotted. He’s obviously been using this as wank material. Don’t know what to think

OP posts:
fortroadcem · 08/06/2019 18:08

I’d be really sad about this OP. It’s so disrespectful to both of you.

SkinnyPete · 08/06/2019 18:09

Could have been a colleague sending a WhatsApp saying check this out and the photo gets saved to gallery? It happens. I've had to make sure I turn that option off based on some of the groups I'm in... Both male oriented and mixed male/female groups I'd add.

Only one way to find out. Ask.

Alicatz66 · 08/06/2019 18:11

If he's happy that you scroll through his pictures looking for puppy photos he really has nothing to hide does he ... I wouldn't worry

PerfectPerpetuation · 08/06/2019 18:16

Knowing he fancies her - I would be demanding an explanation and strong words would be exchanged.
I would not be happy and I would make sure he knew this.
Long term, keep an eye on him.

MsMightyTitanAndHerTroubadours · 08/06/2019 18:18

i delete the fuckers and see if he had the face to ask where they were!

what a bastard!

MrsGrindah · 08/06/2019 18:19

Show him what you’ve seen and call him out for the dirty old man he is.

ConfCall · 08/06/2019 18:27

This is creepy. Yes, the pics are on social media but that doesn’t make it ok to save them. It could cause problems at his workplace too. Delete them and tell him to pull himself together. He should be severely embarrassed about this, it’s weird.

PicsInRed · 08/06/2019 18:29

Do you have kids together?

Lolly9111 · 08/06/2019 18:31

No we don’t. We’re 28 btw so not a dirty old man!

OP posts:
PicsInRed · 08/06/2019 18:32

No kids, not married, 28 (just a baby, you lucky thing!). Perfect.

Leave him.

Shoxfordian · 08/06/2019 18:32

How long have you been together? He sounds really creepy

Chloemol · 08/06/2019 18:40

Just ask him why he has the photo rather than assume anything.

Rosielily · 08/06/2019 18:42

Check his WhatsApp as previous PP has suggested.

Morgan12 · 08/06/2019 18:42

Saved for wanks I reckon. He will be mortified. I'd definitely pull him up.

NK1cf53daaX127805d4fd5 · 08/06/2019 18:52

Ask him any they are there?

TheHammock · 08/06/2019 18:54

You are still young and free. 28 so young

TheFawn · 08/06/2019 21:54

I'd delete them and see if he says anything firstly.

TwoNoisyBoys · 08/06/2019 22:00

I’d have to confront him, phone in hand, and ask what the hell is he doing with these on his phone! If you ask without the evidence in hand, he has time to deny/delete.

Manclife1 · 08/06/2019 22:01

“I know he fancies her”

How? Saying someone’s ‘pretty’ doesn’t mean fancy. You sound very insecure IMO.

KylieKoKo · 08/06/2019 22:41

My phone automatically saves photos sent to me on WhatsApp.

Divebar · 09/06/2019 00:44

All these people who need to access photos on their partners phones. It’s not a reasonable justification for going through them unless you’ve sought permission beforehand.

Myotherusernamewastakenagain · 09/06/2019 00:48

How many photos were there and when from?

Thedilemma111 · 09/06/2019 00:52

Ok . I wouldn’t be bothered by this . Dunno why . Might make me messed up . But I’d just turn it on in the bedroom.

Thedilemma111 · 09/06/2019 00:53

Of course I might be a bit jealous but more of her rather than be annoyed with him

Thedilemma111 · 09/06/2019 00:54

After all , men sank over pretty pictures of women quite commonly .... don’t they ? Better that than doing the deed ?