Found photos of my DP’s colleague on his phone

[Lolly9111]

Yes, I was looking through his photos - not snooping, just scrolling back to find some old photos of our dog when he was a puppy. I found photo on my DP’s phone of a work colleague who I know he fancies (he’s said in the past he thinks she’s pretty) - not ones he had taken or she had sent him, but ones he’d got off her social media of her in a bikini (very skimpy) that he’d screenshotted. He’s obviously been using this as wank material. Don’t know what to think

Workplace based sexual “banter” might lead him into a tricky situation. Remember even if not at work it’s work legally

This thread is as gross as your partner. Taking photos of people you know off Facebook and wanking over them is foul. Some people have some depressingly low standards and can literally find a way to excuse anything.

Lol . I would blame myself if my colleague found shots of me in a bikini online and wanked over them .

If I am happy to circulate half naked pictures of myself to total strangers and the whole world web , like page 3,why should I blame others for what they do with them ?

/and yes , you would only do that because you WANT people to admire your half naked body .

Why does it then matter if someone goes fantasising about your half naked body ? Surely you got the ATTENTION you wanted ?

The jury service , I doubt it is a crime to wank over a photograph of person or persons found in the public domain ......

groups. They all send videos, naked photos, pics of them with other women. I'd rather not know. You can't tell whether anything has been sent to him or whether he looked for it to either send it or keep for himself

Urgh. What horrible men

I think I’d rather know if my husband was a sleaze. Do the poor women know they’re photos are being sent around like this?

Where does it say that this woman posted her picture to the whole world wide web? You're just determined to portray this woman as an attention seeker when you've no idea of the context of the photo.

She posted to her social media account where she may have good profile controls and have it only open to friends. She may have posted the bikini shot among tons of others of her holiday. It may not have crossed her mind that a colleague is going to pore through her whole photo gallery and screenshot what's there for his wank-bank.

That shows a blatant total lack of disrespect for you and her, OP. I'd move on - you can do better!

The point is no one knows how he got the photo . It could just be that she likes the boys watching her at work lol . Maybe she gives them all the come on and sends the pictures around herself!

Yes he might be a creep who got a friend of a friend of her Facebook friends to send the pic .... UNLIKELY why would he embarrass himself

It probably was on the World Wide Web for all to see .

We don’t know .

But you can’t tell OP to leave this guy because we don’t know how the photo ended up on his phone , and we most certainly don’t know whether he has wanked over it .

God you lot are a bunch of homewreckers

So what if he found a pretty woman’s picture to wank over , they all do it anyway .

Serious over reaction on Mumsnet when no one knows the facts

Going off on a slight tangent here: there are all sorts in the world. A photo shared publicly can be used for any purpose once posted; if you’re in a photo in a compromising pose, you will lose control of what happens to it the moment it leaves your hands. It can be a bikini photo, equally it could be a muscled bloke in hard hat and vest, or prim and proper lady in thick glasses and a stack of library books. If you don’t want your photo to be misused by acquaintances/total strangers, surely the obvious thing would be to Not post it publicly, and just send in a text to family / friends.

Coming back to the original issue, if you’re happy to tolerate such photos and they instigate you to up your own standards of seduction as mentioned by PP, then it’s cool. Otherwise just ask about it and have a grown up chat to establish the limits of what you think is ok to keep on the photo gallery?

I'm a really jealous and insecure person and this would really really upset me. But that might be my own hang ups.

ones he’d got off her social media of her in a bikini (very skimpy) that he’d screenshotted.

OP knows and has said where he got the photo. ^

You're really very unpleasant and misogynistic to portray this unknown woman as some type of sleazy flirt.

Although to be fair, you seem to have an equally low opinion of men.

Lol

You lot are mental

Without much information or evidence at...you've come to som mightily certain conclusions.

Lol

And obviously about 12,