Shouting at me and calling me names because I won't let his dogs come round. Is this normal?

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DP's dogs shit, piss and vomit indoors. Regularly. In my last rental property I had to pay £300 to get the carpet cleaned when leaving.

I've bought a house which is a new build and brand new. DP has his own house. We don't live together. I have said from the start that they can't come here. Mostly because I have DC's and they are a health hrisk. He's gone off one tonight, shouting and swearing at me that I'm selfish, a bad mother and getting back together when we split up was a mistake. That I expect the world to revolve around me. I am not compromising on this. I compromise in other stuff but I'm not backing down in this. AIBU?

LTB for good this time.

LTB without a seconds doubt. He sounds abusive.

Why are you with him ?

He’s right, getting back together was a big mistake. Dump him and his badly trained dogs and move on.

Nope, YANBU. I have a dog (100% house trained) and ALWAYS ask permission to take her anywhere, even places she's been before. If she was likely to pee or anything else I wouldn't even ask. Your house, your rules. Tell him to piss off

You really need to ask? Do not put up with this. I suggest you call it a day with this vile man.

There is a very simple solution.

Why do you even have to ask if you are being unreasonable??
Why are you infiictng this man on your children?

Getting back together with him was a huge mistake OP. Dump the lazy, abusive minger for good and leave him to wallow in dog mess.

Not wanting dog shit, piss and puke in your new house and around your kids is normal.
Thinking you should have a right to fuck up someones house is not reasonable or normal.
Kicking off about not being allowed to fuck up someone else's house is abusive arsehole behaviour.
YANBU

What a nasty piece of work. LTB and good riddance.

Christ that's disgusting. Time to take out the trash.

Who the fuck does he think he is? Throwing a tantrum because you want your home to be clean for your kids. LTB Life's too short to waste it on abusive arses like him.

no brainer!! i love my dog but he is housetrained! my god! tell him to fuck off with his dogs.

He is absolutely right. Getting back together was a bad idea. Dump him.

So you are a bad mother because you dont want dog shit near your children...?

He’s trying to bully you, and grind you down. Luckily, you sound savvy enough to tell him to fuck off!

He sounds vile. Bin!

I love dogs, I have two but I would be horrified if they made a mess on my carpet, let alone a brand new one in my dp new house!

Yanbu! And the fact he speaks to you like that as a result is reason enough to agree with him about it being a bad idea to get back together and fuck him off

You're obviously independent, you don't need to put up with his dogs shit or his shit. Finish it, you don't owe him anything.

I hope that your new home brings you happiness and peace. Good luck!

Tell him and his dirty dogs to go on a very long walk and not bother coming back. How dare he speak to you like that!

The dogs aren't really the issue

He is.
Dump and fucking run

OP (and anyone else who needs to hear this) you do not share life, home, bed, bus seats, office space, or oxygen with ANYONE who calls you names. Anyone. If they are calling you names they are abusing you. Doesn’t matter if it’s on the bus, at work, or at home. Name calling is the sign of someone you should not be near. Having sex with them does not change that. Make that a rule to live your life by and you will have far healthier relationships.

How are you a bad mother for not wanting dogs shitting and pissing in the house? what's with the puking, is there something wrong with them?

Anyroad tell him to stay home, anyone that goes on like that needs to be binned.

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