Shouting at me and calling me names because I won't let his dogs come round. Is this normal?

[DIYDoldrums]

DP's dogs shit, piss and vomit indoors. Regularly. In my last rental property I had to pay £300 to get the carpet cleaned when leaving.

I've bought a house which is a new build and brand new. DP has his own house. We don't live together. I have said from the start that they can't come here. Mostly because I have DC's and they are a health hrisk. He's gone off one tonight, shouting and swearing at me that I'm selfish, a bad mother and getting back together when we split up was a mistake. That I expect the world to revolve around me. I am not compromising on this. I compromise in other stuff but I'm not backing down in this. AIBU?

‘Laying in bed till 4’ while you exercised his dogs. Use this as an excuse for him to be gone, you don’t need him.
You worked hard for your home and you can do what you like, including no dogs.

I just read the other thread, it's your house not his, he's decided he's as good as living there (rent/mortgage free?) and was just waiting on you to agree.

Absolutely not OK. What a ridiculous twat he is!

What does he do that he can afford to lie in bed until 4pm? I want that job! Has he repaid the £300 yet?

Why on earth do you stay with him?

You said no and gave an understandable explanation.

The fact that you paid the 300 pound cleaning bill when you rented is very concerning in the circumstances wherein his dogs either made the mess or contributed to the mess. If the 300 pounds was just for the mess the dogs had made then he should have paid all of it - if it was in part due to the dogs mess then he should have at least contributed something.

Him abusing you because you gave a reasonable reason is absolutely disgusting. This time it's the dogs, next time it will be over something else.

Get rid of him, find someone who doesn't want to bring their dogs over to your house or better yet, someone who doesn't abuse you when they don't get their own way.

I hope you get rid of him and tell everyone how it went down.

Any man is not better than no man at all ...

Just saying!

Just read your other thread OP.
He's 'marking' your territory by trying to make himself indispensable by doing jobs for you.
He's also letting his dogs mark your territory too!
He basically thinks that what yours is his and he does not see the boundaries.

Ah this is the same guy! I always found it strange he did jobs in OP house without asking. My boyfriend very helpful towards me but would never overstep his boundary in my own home, at least without asking permission first.

The dog issue is vile and he sounds like a twat. Lot red warning lights here. ..

I really hope you're re-evaluating the relationship

And you are with him why?

Not great for your kids to be around this idiot OP.

Echoing the chorus of people saying he was hoping to move in by stealth. Into your shiny house that you've worked so hard for.
But unless you relent on the dogs he can't. As he has to leave in an evening to sort them out.

Is there a reason you keep him around? Seriously think about that. Because I'd be saying "I absolutely agree with you, it was a mistake to get back together - good bye".

He called you a bad mother? Shouting at you?

Fuck him off without a second thought

He doesn’t even deserve an explanation.

He sounds vile. Dump him and move on.

He's entitled and vile. LTB.

Everything was not ok until you got the new house. I'm fairly sure you posted about living in his house for a while, and him staying in bed all day so you had to clear up after the dogs so your children could move around the house without stepping in it. Revolting.

This man neglects his dogs, and verbally abuses you. Why? Why would you want him?

He doesn't share custody of the dogs with his ex, you do

Do you not see this ?

Tell the bastard to fuck off and never come back.

Wow he's a twat

Stand firm. Good on you for the new house doll it sounds fab x

Were your kids around to hear?