Good morning! I need advice - im sorry if I ramble and the story is long - so thank you for reading!
so my brother is getting married in 8 weeks (been engaged for two years & they asked me be bridesmaid right from the word go - I was made up - my dd is flower girl and son is page boy :))
when I got asked bride said - hair shoes and make up - have how ever you like - just dress she will choose fair enough happy days (btw there is me n her friend who are bridesmaids)
she choose two dresses - her friend complained to me how much she hated them - she doesn't want show her arms - bride asked for honest opinion friend said oh its lovely - I said tbh the fit isn't the best on me but I would wear it as its what she wanted... bride said no no problem we will go shopping - so we have ended up with a multi strap dress so friend can not show arms n I like - bride chose - when trying dress on I said oh im having my hair in a lovely bun for wedding as it will hopefully be hot and il be running round after the kids all day - bride said yes it will look lovely no problem :) - next min my brother txt me having a right go saying bride was choosing hair & make up and its there wedding pics so I will exactly how they want me to not how I want to! I basically told him she had already said I could have hair how I wanted but now shes changed her mind and lied saying shes never said this - the hair she wants is down and awful my hair actually isn't long enough for the platts she wants... she said it is - its not. now she has decided how she wants me wear my make up - or should I say not to have any on at all total minimal - I booked in to have my make up and lashes done and now I feel like its a waste of money as the look she wants is a every day make up look - so why should I pay for someone make me look how I look every day? the way she speaks to me is degusting she talks down to me - everyone has noticed. im sick of the stress of there wedding - im paying more to go to this wedding and hen/stag than my own bloody wedding! it was never about the money but now the way I get spoken to im starting to regret spending so much
all they care about is the wedding pics that's it not if anyone feels happy or comfortable how they look - they actually said this to me.
so my dilemma is should I still be bridesmaid or not? I honestly feel exhausted with it all
so so sorry for the long post