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If your husband said he was going for a couple of beers...

70 replies

bodgeit · 22/01/2018 21:57

Straw poll!

If your partner or husband text you at the end of office hours and said he was going for a "couple of beers", how long would you expect them to be? Or how long until you'd expect a text to say "I'm going to be out for longer than I thought"? Or would you just not be fussed, and they get home when they get home?

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Callamia · 22/01/2018 21:58

I’ve done this occasionally, and come home only because the pub closed. I think I’d just expect him at some point later on.

DusktilDawn · 22/01/2018 21:58

I'd at least expect a text at around 8pm to say he's staying out longer. But to me, a couple of beers would mean that he'd be home before then anyway.

NerNerNerNerBATMAN · 22/01/2018 21:59

With mine, I'd say about 11pm. A couple can easily turn into a few. Depends on whether they've got work/parental duties the next morning.

Aridane · 22/01/2018 21:59

Wouldn’t be fussed, they get back when they get back

ObiJuanKenobi · 22/01/2018 22:00

DP works until 6ish so I would probably expect a text by 8ish if he was staying out much later than that. I think it's courteous to let your DP know if they are waiting in for you.

Mouseville65 · 22/01/2018 22:00

7:30pm

Clutterbugsmum · 22/01/2018 22:01

I wouldn't be fussed, he's and adult he can sort himself out if he needs anything when he gets home.

Cherrycokewinning · 22/01/2018 22:01

Oh anything from a couple of hours to home at 2am. He’s a grown man!

CluelessMummy · 22/01/2018 22:02

In my case, I'd see them in the morning as I'm usually in bed by 10.30. Years of experience has taught me that a "couple" of beers usually translates as at least 5, plus dinner!

purplelass · 22/01/2018 22:03

Unless we'd agreed on a time to be home or text if he'd be later than that time I would expect him when I saw him to be honest.
What does he usually do?

DownstairsMixUp · 22/01/2018 22:03

About 1130 as the pub closes at 11 if it was a weekday. I don't expect a text. I text to say good night though if I go to bed and he is still out

ObiJuanKenobi · 22/01/2018 22:04

I don't think you can generalise though everyone's situation is different. We have twin toddlers and I can't walk up the stairs very well due to ill health so if he's not back by bedtime my sister has to help me up to bed so I wouldn't be too impressed if he didn't come back until 2am. A few months ago when I was well enough to manage I wouldn't mind much!

OverTheParapet · 22/01/2018 22:05

After work for "a couple" I'd guess he'd be on the 8:30ish train or I'd expect a text around 8:30ish saying "jihsbdnon ddfinn luf you xxxxcccccv" and I'd go starfish in the bed happily Grin

Bluntness100 · 22/01/2018 22:06

Wouldn't be fussed. If his evening was going well I'd expect him to stay out, if he was bored he'd come home, and I'd be curious as to why.

MrsCaecilius · 22/01/2018 22:06

It depends. I have to pick him up from the station (rural, no taxis) do get quite pissed off if he doesn't keep me updated and phones at 11 asking for a lift!

Haggisfish · 22/01/2018 22:06

Dh does this once in a blue moon so if it wasn’t a total pita I wouldn’t mind when he got back. Vice versa, too.

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DontDrinkDontSmoke · 22/01/2018 22:08

Any time. I wouldn’t hold him to a time unless I/we had plans. We stay in the town centre so transport home isn’t an issue.

He’d not hold me to a time either. We’ve both been known to lose track because we’re having a great night.

theredjellybean · 22/01/2018 22:08

He's an adult, I am not his mother or his jailor.. He would come in when he wants.
But if he is going to be later than pub closing he will txt... I have usually fallen asleep by then.

turophile · 22/01/2018 22:09

Either a couple of hours later or 1am... depends how the evening went and who was down the pub really Grin Also depends which pub he goes to - one closes at 12 so if he wasn't home by 12.15 then I'd be a bit worried, the other one has regular lock-ins so could be as late as 3am.

ThatsWotSheSaid · 22/01/2018 22:09

Weekday before midnight and on the weekend before 4am. I'd expect to get a text or call as it would be unusual for him but I would be upset if he didn't.

Alfiemoon1 · 22/01/2018 22:10

Would hope he would be home 8 ish but having known him along time would expect 11.30 when the pubs shut i learnt along time ago what a few beers meant and learnt not to worry and enjoyed the peace lol. In fairness I can pop to a friends for a coffee and end up nattering for hours so it works both ways

starzig · 22/01/2018 22:11

If my OH goes out after work, tends to be 10.30 to 11ish. Before 9 means it was rubbish.

AnnaT45 · 22/01/2018 22:15

Anything from a couple of hours till midnight. Depends on who is out. I just think to myself he's out for the night when he goes out.

The only time I get annoyed is if he's getting a takeaway and he gets caught up. But that's because I'm always thinking of my stomach

Tigresswoods · 22/01/2018 22:16

Ha!

"I'm going for a quick drink after work"

Means:

"Don't wait up!"

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