If your husband said he was going for a couple of beers...

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Straw poll!

If your partner or husband text you at the end of office hours and said he was going for a "couple of beers", how long would you expect them to be? Or how long until you'd expect a text to say "I'm going to be out for longer than I thought"? Or would you just not be fussed, and they get home when they get home?

If he is going to want a lift home, I expect a time span and maybe an update, but otherwise I'd say something like "well, I'll be up till 11 so after that you are on your own!"

and of course i expect any Hot Off The Press Gossip to be texted to me immediately so I can feed him pertinent questions to ask.

Whenever. I wouldn’t expect him to be out all night but I wouldn’t wait up for him either!

Chucking out time + time taken to order and eat kebab+ train/bus home.

He'd probably be back around 8. I'd probably worry if he wasn't back by pub kicking out time. We don't hold each other to a time but we know each others habits quite well so it's only natural we'd worry after a certain time.

I think it would depend on your family situation at the time.
Pre-children - no issue / anytime.
Teenage / young adults - no issue / anytime

At a stage where you have babies / little dc who need putting to bed / older (but still young) children when you are in the stage of one needing to be picked up from cubs / Broownies / training / gym / whatever after the others need to be in bed, then it is a different scenario.

After work beers would mean coming home ready for a take away which needs to be ordered so before 8pm text if not coming home so I can order pizza for myself.

Out out, I’m not bothered. He will get himself home when ready. I’m the worst out of the pair of us for this on. 4am last time

Depends on what DC needs are, what meal we have planned, etc.

A couple or few bears I would think 7.30, ‘going to the pub’ would mean later!

Midweek I’d prob expect a text around 8pm if he was going to be later than that. If it was a weekend night I wouldn’t expect him home at any time. I go to bed and he stays in the spare room so I don’t have to deal with the smell of drink/snoring.

I expect to hear from him by 8/8.30 if a couple has turned into a few and again at around 11.30 if he is staying out. He usually texts whenever he is on his way home too so I know to expect him and don't jump at the sound of the door if I'm still awake. I don't mind either way but I do like to know as I worry ever since I got a 3am knock from the police after he was hospitalized on a night out a few years ago.

However, he often forgets and gets carried away so I'll text/call him and ask around these times if I haven't heard from him.

I would never expect him home before midnight on a weekday. One pint easily leads to another...

(That also applies to me though)

Me and my DP's rule is to tell each other if we will be home for dinner or not, if not then we just wont wait up. Not back by the next morning then we would worry.

Isn’t be surprised if he came back while I was still up and wouldn’t expect a text or get one.

Unless it was his evening to look after our children, or we had made plans, I genuinely would just leave him to it, and I would absolutely expect him to do the same if I went pub after work.

This is one of the differences between America and England. We don't have community pubs here to hang out in. There are bars, often as part of restaurants. They seem to be mostly for single people/groups of singles. Enjoyed reading these posts. I like the idea of having a nearby pub to sit and socialize and relax.

One on every street where I live @Lashalicious !! 🤭

If work finished at 5pm, I'd expect to be back home by 10pm (that includes travel time, obviously). As for ringing, I know I should but I never remember to do it.

Chez nous it's dependant totally on the trains. He's either back at 7.30pm,or 11pm.

Wouldn't bother me what time he showed up unless I was expecting to have dinner together or for him to do the kids' bedtime.

He wouldn’t dare do it!
But that’s because we have 2 toddlers and all eat together so if I’d made tea and he texted to say he wouldn’t be in I’d be furious.

When he tells me in advance he’s out for a couple of beers he generally has the sense to stay out until he knows they’re safely tucked up. Then I don’t really notice what time it is!

That sounds fantastic MotherofaSurvivor wouldn't mind that at all!

We had two options applying to either of us. No kids/pets/driving responsibilities. Not applicable if other plans in place as a couple.

Not late - after last orders but before midnight
Late late - about 2/3am.

My son and I have a rule that 'going out' means back by midnight unless you text to say otherwise. But there are no restrictions beyond that.

I suppose I'd expect similar of any relationship I was in.