Is "gosh, she's really attractive" appropriate for a 45 yo to say about a 14 yo?

[GreyHolly]

Just that please.

Context?

45 yr old man about a 14 year old girl passing by at the beach? Grim.

45 yr old aunt about the niece she hasn't seen in 3 years? Totally normal.

Yep, context needed here.

45 year old new boyfriend meeting your dd? Not appropriate.

Nothing like that. We are watching the voice kids.

I'm guessing it's not going to be appropriate if you feel you need to ask here ...... you know the person .

I think it's ok.

Did he actually realise she was 14...

Yes - we are watching the voice kids. It starts with them introducing themselves.

So it's someone on TV? and you're worrying that dp(?) Said that????

Unless there is something else going on I don't see a problem

Bit creepy. .

But like, in a matter of fact way? Just observational? If so I can't see an issue.

Attractive does not equal 'sexy' or 'I fancy her' - it's an objective statement.

I would say something along those lines and I'm not a pervert, honest.
But I think there's a lot that can be read in tone of voice.

I dunno. Seems a little odd especially if he was watching her say she's 14. Was there any need to say it really

"she's really attractive"

Suggests to me a sexual attraction, and so not appropriate.

"she's really beautiful"

Suggests to me a more detached comment, and so not inappropriate.

Inappropriate to ever use the word gosh.

How funny fakename - I'd ascribe the exact opposite meanings.

I suppose it just shows some things just aren't obvious.

On second thoughts, my dad is 45 and he would never say this about a young woman ... not appropriate but not much you can do about it

Inappropriate to ever use the word gosh

I'll tell that to my 18 year old son who uses that word in the time!
' oh my Gosh mother, you are such a freak' is the current insult!

Inappropriate and weird.

It entirely depends on what he means by the words. I would be worried if he had said sexy more than if he said attractive.

Put it this way, if a straight female friend of yours had said that the girl was attractive, would you worry or think that it's odd? If the answer is no then I wouldn't think anything more of your DP saying it

I don't see a massive problem with it, he clearly meant she's a good looking young girl.

All this pearl clutching is laughable really.

Not appropriate, regardless of her age.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

I think "attractive" is an odd word because we usually use that to mean someone who is attractive to us. But if you replace it with "pretty" it doesn't seem so weird does it, so maybe just a bad choice of words?

How funny fakename - I'd ascribe the exact opposite meanings.

Except, you can describe a picture or landscape or object as beautiful. You would only ever call a person attractive. I think it implies sexually attractive. You would never call a baby attractive but you would call them beautiful.