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Had a bad first kiss

68 replies

debbs77 · 06/04/2017 16:51

Seriously, it was awful. Not had a bad kiss since I was 17! Was like a washing machine crossed with a fish!

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DanielCraigsUnderpants · 06/04/2017 17:00

Well it can be offputting but these things can be taught. Was everything else ok?

TheNaze73 · 06/04/2017 19:40

Would put me right off

Ellisandra · 06/04/2017 19:44

Initials CG? Shock
I had a bad first kiss and was really stuck about how to approach it. I'd be mortified if someone criticised my kissing Blush
I was still trying to work out how to say "please stop covering my entire mouth like you're doing mouth to mouth resuscitation" in a positive way, when I decided I'd dump him anyway!

Sorry but I'm giggling at washing machine and fish!

Original poster
debbs77 · 06/04/2017 19:50

Ha no not those initials.

I honestly expected much better. He is extremely good looking and confident, and I figured he would be great!

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DontSayIt · 06/04/2017 20:28

Its important though, kissing isn't it?

You say he is good-looking and confident. D'ya think you have an emotional connection?

Also, I think men who kiss like that haven't really got deep feelings or any real sensuality. They're just "doing it" to ya!!!!! So, doesn't augur well ...

DontSayIt · 06/04/2017 20:29

Also laughing at the washing machine crossed with a fish. I think a few of us know what you mean Wink.

Flyinggeese · 06/04/2017 20:36

Oh how disappointing! That would put me right off but aside from the kissing how do you feel about him. Agree it can be taught but think you really don't want to have to!

Notmyrealname85 · 06/04/2017 20:40

Ugh I had an ex who'd SHOVE his whole tongue into my mouth with such force, felt like my head would get knocked off Shock he once tried to lick my lips...felt like a sociopath rather than sensual!! Agree with the above - either shows general lack of experience (fine) or they won't take directions Hmm

Dappledsunlight · 06/04/2017 23:09

Brilliant thread....Making me lol Grin! What about the kissers who think they're. Dyson....They suck and suck and sort of force their tongues in so you can hardly breathe.... It's like an attack on your tonsils!

Shitalopram · 06/04/2017 23:16

Mmm I think if he can't be intelligent about how he approaches your mouth then he'll be hopeless approaching the rest of you...

Yes it can be taught but he'd really have to be worth it, and open to it of course.

Shitalopram · 06/04/2017 23:18

(Just remembering someone who clamped their mouth over mine and then simply tilted their head violently from side to side...)

noego · 07/04/2017 08:40

Shows lack of experience. Snogging is an art form and has to be learned from early on in ones life.

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 07/04/2017 09:06

I just to go with a guy who would clamp am open mouth to your open mouth and make wiggling motions with his lips. He would also do tiny burps in my mouth.

I went out with him far longer than I should have Blush

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debbs77 · 07/04/2017 09:23

We only met up as 'friends' but with huge mutual physical attraction. But he is only after one thing so judging by the kissing, sex wouldn't be great either!

He actually licked my whole mouth with his tongue ....

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Thinkingofausername1 · 07/04/2017 10:08
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UpYerGansey · 07/04/2017 10:09

A really good kiss is often highly indicative of good things to follow.
A bad kiss, not so much.

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debbs77 · 07/04/2017 10:12

Needless to say that IF I see him again, there won't be kissing! I think he regards himself quite highly due to his looks, so I doubt he would be open to being taught!

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Wishiwasmoiradingle2017 · 07/04/2017 10:15

When I met my dh we kissed at the bar within minutes (Blush) I knew from that kiss we would marry!!
Would have walked away if it had been shit!!

MumBod · 07/04/2017 10:17

Tiny burps?!?!?

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Coffeethrowtrampbitch · 07/04/2017 10:29

Dh is not a good kisser (good at everything else though!)

I did try to tactfully bring it up once, after nearly drowning, to be told that it was as a result of my poor technique Hmm

I have not had any complaints from anyone else, but you can't really argue with 'it's you not me', so now we don't kiss that much, but we've been together for 19 years so it's not a deal breaker. Though I do watch passionate kisses in movies with envy!

It's up to you to decide if the rest of what he offers makes up for him not being good at kissing, but it does sound like you've been quite put off!

MrsRolandRat · 07/04/2017 10:31

I've come across two men in recent years who have been poor kissers, both of them kissed without any tongues whatsoever, which I find strange, it's like I kissed as a 13 year old.

Anyway slept with both and guess what the sex was the really awful too. One wouldn't even touch me anywhere, just literally rammed it in!

Bad kissing from personal experience means bad sex!

Sassenach85 · 07/04/2017 10:31

Smile this thread is making me LOL

Esoteric · 07/04/2017 10:34

Funnily enough, I hate tongues!!

WannaBe · 07/04/2017 10:35

Kissing is important. Well it is to me so I think a bad first kiss would be it for me.

Have been fortunate....

Shitalopram · 07/04/2017 10:35

Oh dear, a combination of high self-importance and low skill is not promising I'm afraid.

I am baffled by "tiny burps" man

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