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100% honest.....how many times do you have sex with long term partner/husband in a month

70 replies

SlB09 · 20/03/2017 13:52

Doing my own poll!! Answers underneath 😉

OP posts:
RocketQueenP · 20/03/2017 13:55

OK I will bite

9 years together, 3 DC from 2 - 11

2 x a month on average. 3 - 4 on a good month -ie if we get a babysitter-- Blush

We used to shag like rabbits until the crazy, non sleeping, high maintenance dc3 arrived. I am just touched out and exhausted by bedtime

Happybunny19 · 20/03/2017 13:58

22 years together, 3 DC's 10 months - 9 years. Usually every day, unless exhausted or poorly.

JellyWellyKelly · 20/03/2017 14:00

We're together 3 years and don't live together so possibly still in a bit of a honeymoon phase.

Have sex most nights we're together so probably 4/5 times a week. I'm sure that'll all change when we have children, I have a DS but he's 4 so no luckily sleepless nights etc.

RocketQueenP · 20/03/2017 14:01

Happy bunny Envy 22 years together shagging most days Shock wtf how

Op why do you ask btw?

justnowords · 20/03/2017 14:01

13 years together, 2 kids. In a 'good' month it can be up to 2/3/4 times a week. In a 'bad' month maybe once or twice. We go through equal good and bad months.

justnowords · 20/03/2017 14:02

that should read in a bad month maybe once or twice a month.

Factorysettings · 20/03/2017 14:05

Married 15 years, 3 kids, 10 x month-ish. I couldn't summon the energy to be at it every day Grin

dementedpixie · 20/03/2017 14:05

Together for 24 years, 2 kids - once a week normally so 3-4 times a month

Blossomdeary · 20/03/2017 14:05

I am intrigued as to why people ask this; and why some ask what is normal. If the two of you are happy with what you do, why would you need to know what others do?

Annesmyth123 · 20/03/2017 14:06

Why?

What's it matter as long as both partners in the relationship are happy.

SlB09 · 20/03/2017 14:07

Every day after 22 years together!! Thats good going!!

RocketQueenP I was curious what people actually do compared to what people say they do and whether this was massively different!

OP posts:
RocketQueenP · 20/03/2017 14:07

Now panicking DH and I aren't normal!! You lot are a bunch of prolific shaggers lucky bastards

RocketQueenP · 20/03/2017 14:08

Ok fair enough OP just wondered x

GotToGetMyFingerOut · 20/03/2017 14:09

Every time there's a thread like this I write the following 'we have no set amount, sometimes it's every day for a period of time, when the kids were little and still breastfeeding or not sleeping through it wasn't very often maybe once a week'

The last thread a few months ago it was about five times a week. Just now for past few weeks it's been about once or twice a week as Dh is working crazy hours and we are both tired. Also struggling with our eldest who is up till same time as us then up ans down sometimes for an hour which means there's no chance.

Annesmyth123 · 20/03/2017 14:09

But they're telling you how often they do on this thread so your premise is bunkum

Saltedcaramel2016 · 20/03/2017 14:09

Married with 2 children aged 10 and 12.

1 or 2 times a week normally. More if on holiday or something!

justdontevenfuckingstart · 20/03/2017 14:09

10 or so a week, we don't mid week cos too knackered it's just a shagathon every weekend. I couldn't do it every night. (kids moved out and it's just us, second marriage)

Isadora2007 · 20/03/2017 14:10

Married 9 years. Four children- two teens from previous marriage two younger (7 and 4)
Probably 2-3 times per week. No more than 4 and never less than once.

Adora10 · 20/03/2017 14:12

On not again, I deliberately avoid these as they are full of lies!

OP, don't judge by anyone else's standards, go by your own.

insomniaat4am · 20/03/2017 14:13

3-5 times a month. 2 kids under 3.

Happybunny19 · 20/03/2017 14:33

But you haven't avoided it Adora. Why do you assume it's all lies?

To those asking, I'd love to say we've been at it every night over the whole 22 years, but unfortunately not. We have done it every day for about the past 8 months, since I was sterilized after dc3 was born. I really fancy dp and have my high sex drive back after giving up hormone based contraception.

Adora10 · 20/03/2017 14:36

Yes I have avoided saying anything about my sex life and that suits me just fine.

Mostly, it's all exaggeration imo.

Poudrenez · 20/03/2017 14:40

18 years together, 0.5 times per month. Surely we're not the only non/hardly ever shaggers?

GraceGrape · 20/03/2017 14:44

There must be dozens of these threads archived. The answers on them never seem to reflect what I discuss with my close friends.

OdinsLoveChild · 20/03/2017 14:47

Fast approaching 30 years together, married for over 25.

It depends on the shift he is working really. Some weeks its 7-10 days with nothing at all others its every other day. We went for 5 months without last year just because life got in the way and then went mad and had it twice a day for over a week back in January. Blush Ive been raging nymphomaniac since then and have explored a rather more kinky side as a result.

However if you ask my DH he will say hardly ever Hmm I have a male friend who says he has sex all the time whereas his wife says its around once a month.

I'm not sure the point of your question. If its to establish if you are normal then there is no such thing as normal. Its whatever is good for you.