Boyfriend spending £200 week at Pub!!

[sunnydays2099]

I have been with my bf for 2 years and he has always been a drinker but when we first met we both were going out 4 nights a weeks but now we are both renting together and life has become more real to me.
He drives a taxi so he does 9 or 10 hours a day but goes straight to the pub after and gets back at midnight EVERY night!
Every week he is paying a huge tab and promises to stop going so much but never stops. He contributes quite little to bills just enough to cover his own and thats it.

He has booked a chistmas holiday to tenerife this dec and tries to make me feel bad that he is having to work hard so he should relax there if he wants.
I don't think £800 month at pub and being lonely all time is a reason to relax.

Why are you with this guy? It doesn't sound like he adds anything to your life.

AT ALL.

Jesus, £200 a week?

He must be driving over the limit every single day.

Oh come on, OP, what is the bloody point of him? Why on earth would you be with someone like this?

Get rid

My dad drank every day after work,we all blamed ourselves.
Drinkers are so damaging to their families.

You never see him ( this would be an issue alone even if he was going straight from work and nursing a single pint of orange squash all night )
He wastes 800 quid a month
He probably is frequently over the limit
He has an alcohol problem

Come on op

Every taxi driver I know is also a gambler

Is he gambling?

Your boyfriend is an alcoholic. You enable it by paying for most of everything. When your tenancy is up, you move out.

Yeah. Nope. Move on

Welcome to Mumsnet, sunny.

Surely you don't think this is acceptable?

What are you going to do about it?

How can you maintain a relationship with s man you presumably never see? You're not a priority in his life op

I don't think it's normal behaviour for anyone to drink like that personally I'd end it

I want out now. My tenency is up next june. I have moved to a new town with him away from family. He doesnt drive after the pub as the pub is a 2 min walk from flat. But he's lucky he hasnt been stopped next morning as its still probably in his system.
He is an ex gambler too but really does NOTHING about the excessive drinking. We have argued about why is he out working so long if he ends up gasping for a drink and not just a couple but till its lock up time.
(Why the lanlord lets him have unlimited tabs ..no idea!)
He is now paying for this holiday coming up, acting like I should be grateful but yet never worries about gas/elec or food...nothing else that concerns me.
Lonely c**p existence

I'm sorry, but you're not really in a relationship. He works all day and spends all evening in the pub. Comes home, rinses and repeats.

you simply flat share.

How much is he spending on gambling?

He has booked a chistmas holiday to tenerife this dec and tries to make me feel bad that he is having to work hard so he should relax there if he wants

Has he booked and paid for you to go on this holiday too, or is he trying to guilt trip you into thinking that he needs 'me time' over and above all of the hours that he spends with his mates at the pub?

Pack a bag & move home.
He isn't worth having.

Is it a joint tenancy agreement?

Oh and he is gasping for a drink because he is an alcoholic, not because he works so much. In fact he is working so much to maintain his addiction.

Just out of interest, are you going on holiday with him? If so, is he paying for you? Just wondering about the gratitude involved.

@goddessofsmallthings

Yes he has booked for me and his daughter from previous relationship. It is like emotional blackmail he loves holidays and would works all hours gods send if he knows he has a holiday booked and in a way he is much easier to get on with when abroad because we spend time together but as soon as we are back home in toutine he is just a drunk who contributes very little and I feel he is so selfish and we dont NEED eachother or atleast I dont need him.

Yup op what are you losing out on by leaving he is never there anyway is he

He is an alcoholic. You can;t help him.

What does his daughter's mother think about him working all the hours god sends just to piss away £800 per month?

@Addtobasket

He doesnt gamble anymore or not that I know of instead he is now having huge tabs at the pub and Kingston is not cheap for pints and shorts or whatever else he drinks.

You don't have to wait until June. Call the landlord, explain that you have split up and you are moving out. These things happen, most landlords are understanding and will take your name off the tenancy. Don't worry about bf, he can easily find an extra £800 a month to cover the shortfall.