Boyfriend spending £200 week at Pub!!

[sunnydays2099]

I have been with my bf for 2 years and he has always been a drinker but when we first met we both were going out 4 nights a weeks but now we are both renting together and life has become more real to me.
He drives a taxi so he does 9 or 10 hours a day but goes straight to the pub after and gets back at midnight EVERY night!
Every week he is paying a huge tab and promises to stop going so much but never stops. He contributes quite little to bills just enough to cover his own and thats it.

He has booked a chistmas holiday to tenerife this dec and tries to make me feel bad that he is having to work hard so he should relax there if he wants.
I don't think £800 month at pub and being lonely all time is a reason to relax.

sunnydays

You are living with an alcoholic; do you not think he has a drink problem?. Its been apparent from the beginning and you minimised the red flags. What you also need to ask yourself is why you have stayed with him to date and chose to rent with him to boot.

He is likely not fully sober when driving and he in all likeliness underestimates badly how much he is drinking.

Walk away now before you get further over invested in him, you were well and truly targeted and you were also vulnerable when you met him. This was only going to be a recipe for complete disaster.

@helenatroy

Thankyou for your kind words. Yes its better than a life sentence. I will just need to learn to trust again but family should never have to be burdened by my choices as I seem to fall victim. But I know they truly are there for me through thick and thin.
Big difference I see between him and I is that I feel guilt if I am bailed out financially but he looking back has never felt guilt its as if he thinks people are obligated to him (Bit of a sociopath I reckon)
He is all empty promises. Feel sorry for his daughter too.
Anyways thanks again things are clearer when you write them down strangely.
And good luck with birth x

Do you not think you deserve better than this?

LTB but more importantly report for being over the limit its a matter of time before he seriously hurts someone he's not safe behind a wheel.

No worries. It feels bad now but as the saying goes nobody died. You can't help him he doesn't want to help himself. One day he'll run out of people willing to carry him. Don't be there, the likes of him only drag people down. Move on and live well. And thank you. We're very excited.