Hello everyone,
I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my first child, I suffer from preeclampsia - yesterday I woke up and my underwear was really wet (TMI sorry) anyway to cut a long story short my fluids had been leaking and when doing the examination they discovered a cyst and as such I got kept in hospital.
My husband works away, so I called to tell him all the information, anyway he said he would grab some food and call me back. I tried calling him a few times to no answer and then his phone turns off. 2am he comes back to his accommodation totally drunk, when I said that it was unreasonable that his phone was off Incase I had needed him etc he said I was being needy and if anything had happened like labour etc it was obviously because I was doing something wrong. He said some truly vile things but I won't go into the details. Anyway, I was still in hospital all day today and not as much as a text or a call, when he text to say "we had to chat" at 7pm he said he couldn't be bothered speaking to me all day and the baby wasn't born so basically there was nothing he could do anyway.
Anyway, the chat consisted of me being told I am totally unreasonable asking him to have his phone on him, and basically if I had went into labour what did I expect him to do about it, he needs time out with his friends and I'm just irrational and needy. Now this evening he is saying he just wants time on his own and will call me if he can be bothered.
To be brutally honest I am used to him running me down and slagging me off, mainly when he has been drinking, but my main concern is he has shown absolutely no interest in the health of our baby, he swears it me and I expect to much, when actually he's never been to an antenatal appointment or scan and goes out drinking at least 4 times a week, I feel I've asked very little of him. so I guess the questions is am I being unreasonable expecting him to call me last night and today? I just needed some support :(