To think DH shouldn't have sent this text to his female friend

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'that's ok, welcome to borrow anything if you collect wearing that top again (wink smiley)'

He actually showed me the text thread as she'd borrowed something of ours and sent him a picture of her ds using it saying thanks. Apparently she was wearing a low cut top

Think he'd forgotten his reply when he showed me - I said I thought it was out of order and that she must think he's an old perv but he insists that she's known him years and won't take it seriously.

I don't think there is anything happening with her but AIBU to think it's disrespectful to her and me or do you think it's a harmless joke?

YANBU. I'd be very very pissed off.

YANBU totally disrespectful to both.

YANBU, it was disrespectful of both you and her.

It depends on the sort of relationship they have. I wouldn't automatically assume it's disrespectful to anyone, but it could well be. It just doesn't have to be.

YANBU I would be pissed off and she WILL think of him as a perv. Eugh.

YANBU. I think it is disrespectful. I wouldn't like it if a male friend sent a text like that to me or if DH sent it to a female friend.

Honestly I think it depends on their relationship, I have male friends who would send a message like that and I would laugh, no harm we have that sort of flirty bantering relationship.
Someone I didn't know well, I'd think ewwww.

Yanbu. Well out of order.

I think it's disrespectful to you and you're obviously bothered that your husband thinks this way about another woman. They probably do have a friendship that wouldn't make this an 'icky' thing but it's how you feel about it that your husband should be paying heed to.

I would completely see my arse over that tbh.

Disrespectful to her amd you.

And way way way inappropriate to a fuck buddy mate

I'd be pissed off, and my DH has good women friends.

This isn't really the sort of thing you say to a friend, if you see what I mean.

YANBU that was inappropriate. I'd be really unhappy.

I'd be incandescent tbh.

Inappropriate. What makes him think that would be an ok thing to say?

YAnBU ... Inappropriate / flirty / garish

Yanbu.

That's a very pervy thing for him to say.

I would be ashamed and embarrassed for him and myself!

It's just a flirty joke. Don't read so much into it.

I would find it sleazy and inappropriate and would explain exactly why I thought so.

Yanbu, in no way is that appropriate.

My DH talks to, and acts, the same around his women friends as his men.

He doesn't cop an eyeful of their breasts if/when they wear low-cut tops, and he doesn't make inappropriate comments of the type you'd make to someone you're flirting with as opposed to friends with.

He jokes with them, and banters, but it's not sexual. Because why would it be?

Ugh, nooo. Just no.
It's essentially saying, "I was having a good old perv at your tits but I'm going to try and normalize that with a winky face, ps I'd totally welcome an equally flirty reply."

Horribly inappropriate. Yes, I'd be extremely pissed off.

Totally out of order,