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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Stepping Into Christmas With Sobriety On Their Minds.

999 replies

Mouseface · 16/11/2013 13:41

Hello, tis me, Mouse Smile

This is a thread for those who are worried about their drinking habits, relationships with alcohol, and/or drugs.

Even if you think your intake has gone up more today than the last or this week than last, come and join us on Gerald, the amazing, always room for more, fully stocked with glorious treats and donned in his Christmas Decorations, Bus!

We are a supportive thread, full of very different posters, from various backgrounds. Some of us drink in moderation, allowing ourselves the odd glass or two as a treat, or just because we're in control of our drinking for that day.

One Day At A Time.

We have those who abstain completely, and those who wake every day to Day 1 and hope with all of their hearts that they can, and will, make it to Day 2.

If you've followed our journey to date, you'll know who most of us are by now smile and we kind of have two 'sayings', that sum up who we are -

    • The Vulnerable Need Our Support, Not Our Judgement
    • Alcohol Fosters Inertia

That said, we will not have any bashing of support groups, such as AA or Community Addiction Support Teams, or even other support threads, posts like that will be reported if the need arises, so 'Orange Paper supporters' don't waste your time please :)

This Bus is a place for honesty, sanctuary and safety, something that has taken almost four years for a number of very special, very lovely, very honest and caring Babes to establish.

So, come find a seat, grab something warm from the supply cupboard at the back of the Bus, it's filled with (non alcoholic or narcotic) delicious, luxury treats and HUGE fluffy quilts, plus anything else you might need to help YOU get through YOUR day a minute, or an hour at a time.

And, if you'd like to see where this all began - This Is The Reason We're All Here, The Original JWN Thread

And This Is Our Previous Thread, With Links To Those Over The Past Few Years

We hope to meet you soon :) x

OP posts:
lookingforhope · 19/11/2013 22:06

Oh, crossed post again - this thread is so fast!

Fairenuff · 19/11/2013 22:18

All food welcome on the bus hope, especially lovely cheeses, mmmmm. And thanks for the mince pieces. I'm back on my diet for the next four weeks so am scoffing all virtual food Grin

I watched I'm a Sleb but hid behind my laptop during the eating challenge.

OfficialSweetieMonitor · 19/11/2013 22:31

Just checking in. Day 2.

Plan to do AF at least till the weekend & sort out my bad sleep habits.

lookingforhope · 19/11/2013 22:43

Me too, let's beat the WW away till at least the weekend...

Mmmmm, lovely cheeses ... (getting hungry now)

beachestoexplore · 20/11/2013 01:56

Spanna thanks for asking after me lovely, day 3 is definitely tricky for me too, the hangover has faded and having reassured myself I can 'not drink' means I have earned a reward.

I have been wobbling today. I had a huge desire to buy a box of wine, sit in front of crap tv and think about nothing until I staggered upto bed. Knowing that it would make me feel crap and useless just made me feel even more sulky Blush. Fortunately dh didnt drink tonight because I am not sure if I could have resisted at close range today. So, had another bath, ate satsumas, located escaped gerbils and got through it. Sigh, hope the WW is not here tomorrow. Bitch...fucking nasty taunting bitchwitch.

Right ray of sunshine aren't I? Grin

Anyway, on a less self absorbed note, Mama I thought your words of advice were very supportive and comforting, go you Charlie big potatoes Grin kwitter I relate to what you wrote, it can be really overwhelming to realize things are getting out of control. I am also aiming to not drink in the run upto Christmas, maybe we could do it together?

Hello to Rural Faire Fated Im Isinde Soc Hope Anne Sweetie Ma and all other babes. Hope you are all doing ok, wherever you are in your battles x

whydidthishappen · 20/11/2013 02:48

Well done Soc.

Very inspiring with all the new comers and the success of some "older" posters.

In the midst of everything, my phone rang with an invitation to an interview that could mean really great things for me and my family. Cross fingers please!

Day 70 sober. Take THAT, WW.

SocFish · 20/11/2013 05:21

why that's great news. All fingers and toes crossed.

Day 70 is amazing...... well done.
x

Imdoingthis · 20/11/2013 07:00

why that's fantastic news x

Just quick reporting in after day 1 feeling great this morning and very positive ( seeing my money in the jar this morning is really helping me )
I have 7 dc to buy for and I haven't saved up anything this year as I had to set up our home sooooo this is driving me .....so all funds to my dc Xmas!!

Morning soc ma why mouse nuff rural isinde Anne kwitter hope beaches spanna all babes iv missed

spanna41 · 20/11/2013 07:01

Why loads of luck for your interview - I really hope you get it Smile
Day 70 that is truly amazing - Inspirational.

Beaches well done for resisting and catching those gerbils - they're bastards. We used to have Hoodeeni (spelt wrong) the hamster - he used to bend the bars and escape Grin

Sweetie I'm going to try and abstain until the weekend, may I join you and Hope?

Day 2 here and I'm already thinking about the evening and WW is whispering - she is such a bitch Sad Busy day today orgainising Xmas fair etc so won't have much time to listen to WW.

Hope you all have a good day Brave Babes, Evening Soc thank you for driving last night - who ate all the mince pies Hmm???

Beaches I loved you description of WW made me smile Grin

obrigada · 20/11/2013 07:04

Fingers crossed for your interview Why, really hope it's a positive result for you!

spanna41 · 20/11/2013 07:06

I'm I can feel you vibes of possitivity it's just what I needed this morning, thank you Smile
You got through Day 1 and Day 2 should be a cinch Grin Your jar will get fuller and fuller - it's an excellent idea!
Have a good day babe Smile

lookingforhope · 20/11/2013 07:17

Ooh, good luck Why. How exciting! (links arms with Spanna and Sweetie so no free hand to pick up a drink till weekend).

Beaches well done for resisting last night. I'm - wow, 7 dcs to celebrate Christmas with! You are a superwoman, my 2 wear me out.

On a trip for work today - usually drink wine on train home to chill after demanding day but going to treat myself to some lovely snacks and sushi instead. Day 3 has kicked off with me feeling wobbly and tired ... Gonna be another long one. Check in later. (snatches yellow opal fruit and jumps off bus before being told off).

spanna41 · 20/11/2013 07:45

Grin Looking
M & S do some yummy treats Smile

SocFish · 20/11/2013 07:52

I just had peanut butter ice cream. Who needs wine I tell ya.

Have a good day babes.

Fairenuff · 20/11/2013 08:15

Why that is exciting news! When is the interview? Well done on 70 days Smile

spanna if you've got a busy day today, be prepared for the ww to come calling later when you are knackered and hungry and feel like you 'deserve' 'just the one glass' to 'unwind' and 'relax'. These are the sorts of words she whispers in your ear when you are vulnerable.

I used to say mantras to myself to keep those thoughts at bay. She will go away, no matter how strong those cravings, if you don't give in she will give up. And if you do give in, you will feed her and she will come back for more. She'll never bloody leave you alone if you keep feeding her.

You too hope, don't let her sneak up on you and trip you up. Plan, plan, plan. Snacks are great, as is a great big fizzy drink to fill you up. Find another way to unwind and do it regularly so that it becomes a new habit for you.

Sound like that bossy sergeant major again don't I Grin

Anneisnotmyname · 20/11/2013 09:44

Morning all babes

Wow why 70 days fantastic! Good luck with the interview x

Had a glass of wine last night. I've had a 187ml bottle in the fridge for the past week so had that. It was not nice at all, don't know if that's because ive not had much the past few weeks. Admittedly when I first started drinking wine I didn't like the taste and it wasn't until I got the alcoholic effect that I began to enjoy it....so I will not be drinking today :)

OfficialSweetieMonitor · 20/11/2013 09:47

hope and spanna I have a vision of us linking arms, marching and singing like suffragettes

We will
We will not be swayed
We are
We are not afraid
The nights are long and dreary
But the Bus is cheery
And - We - Are - Babes !

Mamabear74 · 20/11/2013 09:51

why, it's so good to hear a good news for you! Have everything crossed for you. Let us know when the interview is lovely. And massive congratulations on 70 days! SEVENTY! Amazing!!!
beaches loved your post, well done for resisting that urge! Having a little sulk over the course of battle is nothing compared to the upset & havoc if ww would have won!
i'm, you go girl! So pleased you got through day 1 feeling good! Do jump back on if you need help whacking that ww later on today. You'll get that £20 even if we have to kill her for it (ww obvs!)
spanna it's so weird how the ww comes calling early isn't it? It's like she's got a list of whoever beat her the previous night & she's trying to get some kind of revenge by making the urge longer & stronger the following day. But you can fight her off, we'll be here to help! Which is exactly what faire just said, sorry to regurgitate!
looking will you have access to us while you're on the train? Sushi and snacks sounds like a great plan, will you have to pass any off licences from the station to home? Wishing you lots of strength to get through lovely!!!
soc peanut butter ice cream sounds divine! Might have to hunt some out!
fated how are you today? Feeling stronger after your battle last night? Well done by the way!
mouse hope all is going ok for your mum!
Hi to obri, ma, isinde, rural, anne, sweetie, kwitter and anyone else I missed!

ruralreynard · 20/11/2013 11:55

Good morning babes
BFF last night. Feeling bl88dy awful. Slightly less than 1 bottle, whats that about, would normally take 2 to make me feel this bad.
Too bad a state to read back babes Blush.
Just wanted to get it out there
I WILL NOT BE DRINKING TODAY.
love to allxx

Mamabear74 · 20/11/2013 11:56

(((Hugs))) rural. Hope you start to feel better soon. Be kind to yourself today, ok?

beachestoexplore · 20/11/2013 12:09

Sorry you are feeling so rubbish rural, go quietly and get today over with, tomorrow morning will feel a hundred times better. Thanks for posting though, I needed reminding of how bad a hangover can be Xx

SocFish · 20/11/2013 12:10

rural been there a million times. Stay hydrated and agree, look after yourself today. Xx

beachestoexplore · 20/11/2013 12:14

Hi Soc that peanut butter ice cream keeping you awake?

SocFish · 20/11/2013 12:25

Lol. Yes. Also just got back from my AA meeting. Takes a whole to decompress. Was a good meeting.

SocFish · 20/11/2013 12:25

While.

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