Dating thread no 51

[JulietteMontague]

All tales of online and real life dating here!

secret I'm the same using od as a distraction. Having a night out and chatting to people in rl has had an amazing effect on me. Feel so much happier! Could you try that? Od is not for the feint hearted. It's success is dependant on so many factors. It's hard but can be worth it if you meet someone special. Good luck with everything - I have found tackling things in little bite sized chunks the best approach for me

Ah, but at least you know it's fantasy Juliette but I was thinking more in terms of your trainer, and the ability to channel Cheryl Cole, without sounding a knob!

Thanks Pom. I do get the odd night out, but its with work colleagues I've know for years and all that happens is we get very drunk! And the only way bite size is going to work is if I can work out how to dislocate my jaw and take STBXH's head off!

Secretservice... read the PDF and keep smoking while you do so...

media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf

PDF version of the popular book. It really helped me so much.

While i didn't follow his advice to the letter (I used NRT just as a buffer for the first few days) everything else is 100% true and WORKS

Smoking itself is what causes 90% of your stress... when you start withdrawing from it (soon as you put one out) the stress starts til you light one again. Smokers never know what it is to be truly relaxed as they are always either smoking or suffering withdrawal and waiting to light up again.

Soooo much more to it than that though obviously... but seriously read it.

The link's not work for me Lubey

I can go days without smoking, but once I start ut's like I have to top up my nicotine levels again - like the starvation theory of dieting. I seem to have convinced myself, smoking is the only thing that's mine. The whole family disapproves, particularly the kids, and there's a part of me that smokes just to keep something all to myself! Well it makes sense to me

media.wix.com/ugd/74fa87_2010cc5496521431188f905b7234a829.pdf

Got it! Thanks Lubey.

I hope it's just coincidence that it's so quiet on here on the day I choose to whine! Sorry, I'll go now. You can all come out of hiding!

I'm sure it is a coincidence... it's been randomly quiet on and off for a few days now.

I've just finally managed to get an invoice paid that's been owed to me since November... yay

dare I say I might be getting somewhere (again... long as nothing else upsets the applecart!)

Hey everyone I havnt been on the thread for a few days as I was busy completing course work!

Well listen to this! I was chatting with a new guy (the one that said he wanted to spend the day flirting with me) and told him I was in a good mood as I was so close to finishing my college work! He replied saying your a bit old for course work arnt you? God that has really put me off! What a backwards attitude to have that adults shouldn't study!

I can't believe someone would have an attitude like that

Just had a chat on the phone to Mr R&R. He asked me to go away with him to Tarbert in Scotland for a week His father has a flat there (news to me) right on the harbour. His family are from the area, so he has been many times.

I have always wanted to visit Scotland. So said "yes please"

Going up 24th of May. Look out Scotland.

SS sorry to hear things aren't going too well at the moment. I use OD as a bit of a distraction as well sometimes, nothing wrong with that.

48 yay for holidays with Mr R&R!! This is just getting better and better. Have another

Moving well you can tell the kind of person that would have an attitude like that. Next please!

I think Rick (sorry Juliette) might be going to cancel on me for Thursday - he's just e-mailed to say he has to go down to London with work so could we make it later and I've replied saying are you sure you don't want to postpone with having such a heavy day. Hope he does, my heart really isn't in it. I might keep the babysitter and just go out and do something (not sure what, late night shopping maybe) unless I can get someone else to step in at short notice . . . Indie says I already sound like someone he could really get on with and he wants to meet, my sentiments exactly. Please stop me getting silly about this bloke before I have met him - I know already that I'm going to be doomed to disappointment and he will be a really nice man but with no spark there.

Oooh 48 you lucky thing :o

and moving yes i think that would wind me up too

what did you say back to him?

Nothing back from Rick so I am in limbo . . . Have messaged Indie and said I would like to meet him too. So, the wheels are set in motion!

OWW You know the rules. Keep your cool. Fingers crossed for a spark with Indie though

48 I am rubbish at rules. And cool.

Hello everyone, so besides pof which I've tried and is crap, what is a good dating site?
Don't mind parting with a few pounds, but can't afford to throw money away
I'm in south Wales, near Cardiff xThanks x

Hello J2O - it really does depend on your age group, what type of man you are after and whereabouts in the country you are. Being near a big city you should have a bit of choice, lucky thing. OkCupid is free and quite a few people like it but I never had any luck, hardly anyone from my area on it. Match has been known to throw up a couple of good ones and I know people on here have used Guardian Soulmates. I think a lot of the pay sites you can browse without signing up, so you can see if it might be worth your while.

I actually seem to get on best with PoF which I know is unusual, but if you filter your searches very carefully and are ruthless with who you speak to, it can have results. Especially if you're looking for an engineer, apparently.

Well done on the invoice from November lubey - I am chasing one of those as well. The work I've just done us for the same place so hoping they might pay them both together...

Garage is getting there but currently somewhat messy. More tidying tomorrow .

Hopefully Rick will bail out OWW and maybe Indie could step in?

Am going dry slope skiing on Thursday with Mr Nice and his DS. It is probably a pity that the event will not be filmed as I think we oldies will be very rubbish

Well Miranda that was kind of my cunning plan . . . Your skiing sounds like great fun. Make sure you wear some thick trousers and gloves as it is quite prickly when you fall on it (and I know).

Thanks OWW, I should have posted when I was getting all heated over the Disappearing man. I broke too many rules, particularly the investment and too much contact before meeting ones. Maybe I would feel less bruised now!

But on the positive side, it was definitely fun while it lasted and he really can't be the only one out there can he?

Very of Mr R&R

I told him that people need to study to progress in life! And I told him that what he said came across as rude! He replied with someone is shirty then asked me what I'm doing

(Having a shitey old day so decided not to inflict my moany old gob on everyone )

But I am cathartically outraged by a man who's messaged me on okc tonight, and says you should message him if ' your cute, girly and affectionate'
'Cute and girly' ?!?! Is he a fucking lunatic ? I've eviscerated men for less than that.

Anyway, feeling better now, thanks Mr Moron.

Ok, so i'm about to dip my little toe into the murky waters of online dating. Any recommendations for sites?

kin, I'd just reply with 'ditto' then block him

Buffy is very very fun. And the lifts here could really do with some oil.

Nora the 'your' wouldn't help his cause either . . .

Hello Patio - really depends on whereabouts you are etc. I posted about this earlier tonight about half a dozen posts up, but if you want to say whereabouts you are in the country there might be some local people on here who can give better recommendations. Good luck!

Sorry Nora hope you are okay, better day tomorrow. Is it work stuff? Horrible shock to the system being back after a break.