Men who don't watch porn

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I do not believe all men watch porn.

However I wonder why they dont with it now being the "norm"?

Was there never any interest in the first place? Has it lost its shine? Is it a for feminist reasons?

Or is it more of a case of resisting temptation? As in they do want to watch but guilt and/or morals stop them? Fear of being caught?

We live in a time when we are constantly fed the message all men watch porn so nobody ever discusses those that don't watch it.

Feel like Jesus?

What?

I'm not actually arsed about cheating, I'm arsed about lying and about porn though... How does that work then andula?

why are you 'arsed' about porn? (great choice of words by the way) :)

(Not that it actually matters why someone doesn't like porn btw)

Because it erodes the concept of consent and it is part of rape culture. It commodifies and desensitises sexual experiences.

Why aren't you bothered by porn?

(And it is very skewed towards male power)

So Shoesme, I should believe you rather than the man who has been my husband for longer than you have been alive?

Bela, pretty much.

It's titilation, that's all, there's nothing wrong with it. If you found out your partner was into it, what would you do?

Have you got inadequacy issues shoes? You seem to be quite desperate to achieve dominance...

Offred, how is it part of the rape culture? (genuine question)

Thank you x

Andula - except that it isn't just titilation, undeniably it isn't just titilation so that argument is completely redundant. If my dh watched porn he wouldn't be my dh anymore.

If I found out my partner was into porn I would never look at him in the same light ever again, so this for me would be deal breaker.

Offred, i think i've got commiment issues more than inadequacy issues, i find it hard to open myself up to people these days, wasn't always like this though.

Because most mainstream porn shows female humiliation and degradation with male power and/or the penis at the centre of the experience. In a lot of porn it is the humiliation and the degradation of the woman which is designed to be exciting but beyond that there are also the consent issues. Anyone who watches porn, and especially those who lie about it, is demonstrating poor understanding of consent.

I'm the only one that has 'danger wanks' in MY household. I tell DP to go and get me a cup of tea and see if I can come before he gets back.

Not really.

I don't really think there is any such thing as a "commitment issue" other than I suppose thinking you have to be committed but being unprepared to do so and then lying about it,...

My DH doesn't watch porn. I wouldn't be with him if he did.

And men who "know all men wank to porn, when we are doing the shopping. And that all men lie about being in the pub"

Gosh you are clever, you know about every relationship in the country?
"Ladies" lets all bow down to the menz wisdom or piss ourselves laughing

That's more of an inadequacy issue though because it is coming from an initial feeling of your own way of thinking being undesirable and almost punishing others with half compliance...

Mine doesn't because he is more interested in other stuff

And he thinks it's stupid and grubby.

Exactly Quick. If my DP got his kicks out of watching women being degraded he certainly would not be the one for me.

I have also had a fair few boyfriends/long term relationships in my life and not one of them were into porn. Being into porn is not the "norm" from what I've experienced.

Shoesme, you do know that most women regard porn using men as emotionally immature and sexually inadequate don't you?

And some women like it and don't think relationships should be a soft-focussed rom-com

Bela, i didn't know that but i don't believe it to be true about men or women who watch porn being emotionally immature or sexually inadequate so with the greatest of respect i think you're totally wrong x

The women i know think watching porn is normal, they even watch porn themselves.