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WWYD? Found condom...

109 replies

NannyPlumBum · 04/09/2012 19:27

Me and kids have been away for a few days visiting my family. We decided to come back a bit early, didn't tell DH, was supposed to be a surprise.
Went into bedroom. Condom wrapper on side, used condom in bedroom bin.
Porn DVD sorting out.

Confronted him. He denies sex with someone else, swore on kids lives, says he was watching porn by himself, is embarrassed, doesn't wish to discuss it.

I don't know what to believe.

OP posts:
BelaLugosisShed · 12/02/2014 16:55

ZOMBIE THREAD !
don't people look at dates FFS Hmm

MikeLitoris · 12/02/2014 16:57

Why would you post on a very old thread to say that you have a posh wank 3 times a day? Confused

What where you searching to find this thread?

JoinYourPlayfellows · 12/02/2014 17:00

don't people look at dates FFS

No, why would I?

If a thread is in Active Convos, why would I look to see wether it was started two years ago? Confused

catlady7777 · 12/02/2014 17:35

smell if there has been a woman.. i wouldn't trust a used condom, wouldn't he have just used a tissue if he was on his own? x

Golferman · 12/02/2014 19:40

Yeah, as a teenager sure

needlesswidow · 12/02/2014 21:51

check the bed for hairs a different colour/length from yours

smell the sheets

look for stuff around the house that is done in a way that your Dh wouldn't normally do. If he had a woman over he might've tidied up, taken a couple of pictures down, cooked, a second bathroom might've been used etc

if none of these, then I reckon he's a good 'un!

DCRbye · 12/02/2014 23:46

Yep, xDH did this too. It provides lubricant or something! I'd definitely not read anything into it whatsoever.

DCRbye · 12/02/2014 23:46

(even if it is an old thread!)

chateauferret · 13/02/2014 00:10

@akaemnafrost No. It is bollocks.

anapitt · 13/02/2014 00:38

IT'S DRAWER NOT DRAW !Angry

Funnyfoot · 13/02/2014 00:59

I asked my house mate (male) about posh wanks and he said "nah its a myth". However if you are using a sex toy (I didn't ask for a description but I assume the male equivalent of a dildo) then yes using a condom is better as it has a lubricant which reduces friction.

Do you think that is why he maybe to embarrassed to speak about it?

sykadelic15 · 13/02/2014 01:36

What would I do... well when I found it I probably would have throw up because of the panic. Then I'd probably log onto his email/FB and everything else searching for "clues" (until he got home). As gross as it is I would have got the condom out of the trash (I have disposable gloves on hand) and checked it out to see whether it looked like there had been another person involved (as mentioned up thread).

When he got home and told me his excuse, I would have believed him (because I'm sure I'd've found nothing during my previous searching). Then I'd have told him how stupid of him it is to use condoms and not tell me he does it. Reason being, I know we have them, I probably know how many are left so even if I hadn't found the used ones, I'd have been suspicious when I noticed the pack was low/gone.

As for "posh wank"... aside from the laughs that gave my colleague and I, it's ridiculous and neither of our partners (my spouse, her boyfriend) would even consider using a condom for that reason. Both hate using condoms during sex because of how it feels when they ejaculate, I can't imagine they'd enjoy it by themselves.

GilmoursPillow · 13/02/2014 09:51

The sheets have probably been washed and any smell gone 17 months after the event....

ChoccyDigestive82 · 13/02/2014 10:14

Prevents making a mess. Quick clean up. Lets face it, he would not have been so careless if he had had another woman in bed. Leaving condoms and porn films out. He probs wouldn't need the porn film if he had a dirty bit on the side

ChoccyDigestive82 · 13/02/2014 10:15

oops, didn't realise was a zombie thread. My bad

madeofstone · 13/02/2014 10:43

Yes I have done it a couple of times, but didn't like it. Hand covered in gunk, and not the good gunk.....

It does happen, I prefer to clean up after me....

ateddybearfromdelaware1 · 13/02/2014 11:32

I'm a single man

Shocker.

SauceForTheGander · 13/02/2014 11:46

Oh god - has Sheffield guy done a name change and come back to tell us he wanks 3 times a day on a long dead thread?

jbbk · 13/02/2014 16:08

an old thread yes, but i wonted to let you know that sum men use condoms for that . and sorry i gave to much info on the number of durex i use.

LisaMed · 13/02/2014 16:11

jbbk - has your significant other found some condoms and asked for explanations? Do they use mumsnet? Is this your alibi?

jbbk · 13/02/2014 16:26

i came across this on google and read it, no alibi im single

SauceForTheGander · 13/02/2014 16:56

It's fine. As long as you're not Sheffield guy. He was a different kind of wanker.

DCRbye · 13/02/2014 17:03

I personally think it's never too late to hear about how many times sheffieldguy wanks each day. Also, I am really bored at work, and along with the finger sniffing thread this one is making me giggle. Honestly though, it is very weird.....men DO posh wank. I have seen it with my very eyes! Prevents chaffing? lol

DCRbye · 13/02/2014 17:03

LisaMed that made me spit out my drink

jbbk · 13/02/2014 17:08

so because i admit to masterbating im a wanker, i use a blow up doll to, so i must be a perv