Husband confessed to watching porn

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Husband of 12 years has just confessed to me that he watches porn, sometimes as often as once a week. Really not sure how I feel about it.

How would others feel about it? Is it right? wrong? Am I doing something wrong?

We have a pretty good sex life generally - though sometimes we're both busy with work etc so often only make love once a week.

OP - porn better than what my DH was looking at, I assume in a wank-based way...

The official 'Girls Allowed' website.
He is not a fan of their music.

I found that strangely freakish.

I wouldn't like it either OP.

toutou !!!!!!!!! 'something kinda oooh' suddenly has a new meaning!

It would bother me for lots of reasons. I had the same issue when my ex was watching it. I know too much about how porn is made now to be ok with him objectifying women in it plus I found it disrespectful to our relationship. I know he would have felt very insecure had I been looking at similar images of hot, oiled up, well endowed men.

Good post sternface.

I used to be ok with porn, then I did some reading up on it and I decided that I really, really didn't like it. Dh does still watch it occasionally (when I'm away with the dc's), he knows how I feel about it and I want him to stop watching it completely - whether he will or not is a different matter....

All those with issues with watching it due to the trafficking forced issue. Who says its always the case

All those with issues with watching it due to the trafficking forced issue. Who says its always the case

All those with issues with watching it due to the trafficking forced issue. Who says its always the case

All those with issues with watching it due to the trafficking forced issue. Who says its always the case

All those with issues with watching it due to the trafficking forced issue. Who says its always the case

All those with issues with watching it due to the trafficking forced issue. Who says its always the case

what percentage of trafficked women would be acceptable to you?

In my view, even if its only 1% (which it definitely isn't), its still unacceptable.

There is no way I would want any of my female family members to end up working in the porn industry where they are made to be penetrated in all orifices, suffer appalling injuries and often they end up drugged or drunk in order to cope.

gosh, you really do want to get your point across don't you symfem

Stupid fone !
Ok what about amateur porn. Two or more consenting adults who post a video

You have absolutely no way of knowing if the participants in "amateur" porn have consented to the video being put out on the internet.
To me, watching a couple's private moments is much worse than watching paid performers - at least paid performers know their work is being made public - at worst you could be watching a woman having sex with her partner when she has no idea he has uploaded it - which does happen.

I could not be complicit in such a violation.

As long as he's not using it as a 'substitute' for sex with you, I'd like to think it wouldn't bother me too much.

What's the problem? shrugs Seems normal to me.

I agree with MOS.

It certainly led to more in my relationship. It led to

1. secrecy about it before I objected and after I had expressed disinterest in whether he used it or not, followed by
2. porn replacing our sex life to a large extent, to
3. Internet erotic chats (apparently all one -offs) with over 200 women over a five plus year period, all hidden and denied.

So I feel different about it now.

I think that for some men it is the first in a series of steps away from the relationship, and that each step taken enables the next to seem more justified/ok than would have been the case otherwise.

How many fellow women own a vibrator, dildo, bullet or any other pleasurable sex toy in order to " get off "? A book even? Porn is porn in anyway,be it gay porn , mature porn etc, there are millions of types of porn and most of it isn't isnt just big titted tarts!
Who needs it when you have a fulfilling sex life? Watch porn together!! me and my hubster do, I even play with myself in front of him and he does too and believe me we are perfect together

Why oh why oh why do so many women on here have so many tiny insecurities about menial things inc sex?

OP, please ravage him tonight while watching porn!!!

Open your mind FFS ( most of you in fact )

Laughable to the point I have serious tears in my eyes chuckling at this

sorry but its not laughable when what starts as a fascination for porn turns into a flirty/sexual email relationship with another woman and then eventually leads to sex with her

The vast majority of men watch porn. Doesnt always lead to infidelity. Blame the man not the porn

Your post would be laughable if it wasn't so tragic user1979.
You are the one who needs to open your mind.

Oh, and look, a very first post from a new user and it's someone belittling women who have a dislike of porn - how very unusual.

user You joined Mumsnet simply to laugh at people who have a problem with porn ?

I say get a life mate

I'm a little concerned that user cannot tell the difference between an inanimate object and a human being....