My boyfriend and i have split up

[fairyfly]

If anyone needs some advice on totally messing up relationships please cat me. I am perfecting the art.

Just caught up with this FF. Sorry to hear what's happened with the boyf, but think you are right. There is no point tolerating something that you are not happy with at this stage. If he can't pull his finger out now, he certainly isn't going to do it as the relationship progresses.
Sorry its gone pear-shaped. However at least it sounds like you are in control and making decisions about your own life as opposed to being on the receiving end.

sorry to hear that fairyfly.

Sounds like a really brave decision on your part, fairyfly. Must have been a very hard conversation to have.

Wow FF I so admire your courage and strength to do this -- can not giveyou any advice but just think you deserve the best and I sincerely hope you get it...

What the F?????????/

get yourself on MSN

Oh fairyfly I'm really sorry. Bugger.

just read all this and fio and the others are right, let the dust settle xxx

Oh sweetie, you are really a rather remarkable woman, you know that? Lots of r's in that.

His loss. Honestly, his loss.

Anorak i kind of understand where your coming from but to be honest he does make and effort and plans, just not a week in advance. Not even for himself.

I'm thouroughly depressed, it has been so hard not to contact him today. i was checking my phone constantly.

I'm not bothered about meeting anyone, i just had this relationship as i loved him already and it was safe.

Thanks all, (lovely thing to say marthamoo, you can be my agent)

Sorry FF, I was just telling you what happened to me in case it was relevant in any way. I'm not saying your bf is like my ex. Just that if he really is a commitment phobe then you won't get anywhere however nice he is in other ways. I guess the thing is to establish whether in fact he really is or not, or whether it's too soon to expect it.

Whatever happens I just want you to be happy. You deserve it.

Sorry Anorak, im just in a stinking mood, thanks x

I miss you, i miss you, i miss you

Just typing it here because i keep picking up my phone. Phones should be automatically taken off people by the police when going through a break up. Would save a lot of embarassment.

Oh FF, I can remember that feeling of wanting him so much.

I hope it hurts less soon.

Suspect he will be missing you too, sweetheart.

Don't suppose that helps though.

Thanks, i'm ok, just the longest time i haven't spoken to him and it is hard work keeping ones rather large mouth shut.

I used to get pissed in clubs and say it to the walls in the toilets - "I love him! I want him back!" MN is far less embarrassing - at least you can't walk out of the cubicle to find strange women gazing at you pityingly.

I'll save that for the weekend Moo

paint, type but let the phone rest. In fact unplug it and place in freezer along with cell phone.

Been painting all day, it works. Just had to stop. Going to bed in a min.

arggh what have i done.

FF - im sorry to hear this. Its a good idea to type your feelings on here though xx

we werent allowed to speak in the toilets at our local club, there used to be this really old lady in there that had applied her make up with a trowel. she was so bloody scarey it was untrue

Local club?

Oh dear

yeah they had painted the tiles aswell and it all used to peel off

nevermind we got to shag lots of footballers

Someone out of heartbeat was looking at the meat in Somerfield today, my god who needs sex when you get excitement like that.

somerfield is the new Ivy didnt you know