MIL just rang - her and FIL have just (without our knowledge) been to look around the house we are buying [hmm]

[MamaG]

FFS

She rang me to tell me they'd been around it (outside - it's empty) and IN the farking garage.

"well the garden's not as big as I thought"
"the garage window needs replacing"
"the garden in the house opposite is a bit scruffy"

FUCK OFF! FUCK OFF! FUCK OFF!!!

We didn't ASK them to do it, DH is a builder and is more than capable of noting that a garage-fucking-window needs replacing

and who gives a SHITE that a neighbour's garden is scruffy? Who fucking CARES

AAAAAAARRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

They are so fucking NEGATIVE

They sound like control freaks. Ignore them.

Oh no, that's really shitty!

Assume you're moving closer to them if they can just pop round? Eeek!

and I'm moving from 1.5hours drive away to 5mins drive away

WTF am I doing

DH is going to go mad when he finds out

God I forgot how stifling they are

FFS

lol you've not even moved in and they're round already

I am PMSL at this, MIL took a very keen interest in our house buying (to be fair to her she was lending us money), she was desperate to sound as though she knew what she was talking about and pissed me off talking endlessly about things "oh well you don't really need that and if that room were done like this then you could and what you really want is...." She was very keen on the first house we really liked, couldn't think of a bad thing to say about it. Then FIL (architect and our survey replacement ) came to see it, found loads of serious issues and suddenly she insisted that it was much better that we didn't buy it as she had bad feelings about it and wasn't sure it was the right house for us

We managed to solved the problem by buying when she was on holiday!

You'll be living pretty close to my MIL I believe, would oyu like me to introduce you?

Are you moving closer to them or further away?

I remember the first house me and DH rented together after University and my FIL's comment was "oh I thought it would be like student house" what? When we have good jobs and MONEY to pay for a decent house rather than being skint and living in halls of residence? Errrr hello?

I have learnt to nod and mmmm at him lots over the years. It is a hell of a cheek for them to go and view it before you move in.

Am on your behalf.

my typing is very slow, just realised you are moving closer

Maybe your DH could install gates so they can't get in without an invite, you could be your own gated community!

PMSL

God what am I letting myself in for? I keep telling myself the novelty will wear off, of us being close and they'll get bored of coming round.

I'll just be as inhospitable as possible

Blimey! I've looked at floor plans on the internet for houses friends have bought - and felt midly uncomfortable doing that.

None of their business - they're not going to be living there with you.

"I keep telling myself the novelty will wear off, of us being close and they'll get bored of coming round."

Are you mad, woman? 5 minutes?!

You can come back here 2 weeks a year after moving inwhen you have had enough and are having yourself committed and we can all say I told you so how sorry we are

It will be FINE

Oh my God. I would be furious. God knows what the vendors would have thought of a middle-aged couple sniffing round their bins and sneering at their garage windows?!

5 minutes away from them? Best of British.

The dragons tell the truth! We are the truth tellers!

God, MILs really are all cut from the same cloth aren't they? Not quite on the same level, but when we bought our Ikea highchair, mine was horrified that we'd only spent £12 or whatever it was. She thought it was a 'deathtrap' and wanted to go out and buy us a 'proper' one immediately despite me telling her we hadn't bought it because it was cheap, but because it was the best one for us. Anyway, she then made her poor dp drive her all the way to Ikea (about 45 mins) so she could go in and grill them about their safety standards!

They sound like loons.[sympathy emoticon]. I have to deal with the same sort of thing from my parents, the in-laws are lovely.

Have you watched

EVERYBODY LOVES RAYMOND??????

on Channel 4 each morning @ 7.30am

Record it and watch it later

The family buy the house over the road from the DH parents and they are over several times a day!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hope you don't end up like that

Get a substantial lock for the doors and put up very thick net curtains so they can't see in

Good luck

I would pull out of the purchase and be looing elsewhere

Mmm. I feel your pain. But would be surprised if my parents, PIL, siblings and siblings-in-law didn't all do this when DH and I buy a house. Honestly. We haven't even started actually looking yet but my mother asks me weekly how it's going. There is just something about buying a house that has everyone all agog and involved, often inappropriately so. [although, I have to add that my family would probably be a bit hurt if I didn't offer to go and have a look round the outside of whatever new house they were buying, even if it is 20 minutes out of my way and they are moving in next week...! I know my mum can't understand why DH and I haven't gone to have a look at the house my DB and SIL are buying. To be clear - she thinks that they shouldn't have bought it without us going round to have a look, with the estate agent, too; and the only reason she hasn't insisted on such a visit is that she lives too far away....!].

Popping round every five minutes when you move though... that's a whole different kettle of fish. Good luck with that. Do not, under any circumstances, give them a key!

I'd say it's not so bad that they had a nosey at it - it's not far from where they live and it's bound to be of interest to them.

Wandering around the garden is overstepping it a bit though. And bloody rude to point out negative things if you've already committed to buying it (unless you've asked her to in order to help beat the price down or something, which presumably you haven't).

If your DH is a builder then perhaps you should consider installing one of these?

Do you want us to clear AIBU and Relationships for your exclusive use for a few years months weeks after you move in?

well I think its lovely. My MIL and FIL practically have to be paid to have any interest in our life or our dds. They live about half an hour away and dont even bother to see them on their birthdays! I would love it if somebody was interested enough in where i was going to live to actually have a look themselves.

Actually I take that back as at least my family love us and take a massive interest in what we do - just not my dh parents.