MIL just rang - her and FIL have just (without our knowledge) been to look around the house we are buying [hmm]

[MamaG]

FFS

She rang me to tell me they'd been around it (outside - it's empty) and IN the farking garage.

"well the garden's not as big as I thought"
"the garage window needs replacing"
"the garden in the house opposite is a bit scruffy"

FUCK OFF! FUCK OFF! FUCK OFF!!!

We didn't ASK them to do it, DH is a builder and is more than capable of noting that a garage-fucking-window needs replacing

and who gives a SHITE that a neighbour's garden is scruffy? Who fucking CARES

AAAAAAARRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

They are so fucking NEGATIVE

Perhaps if your DH installs some of these electric security gates ~ you will be ok ~ visitors need to use an intercom to get through the gate

LOL, kind of thing my PILs would do.

When my good friend bought their first house, their parents went with them to view it.

My friend's PIL's biggest concern was that they would not have a place for the hoover.

Get a big big lock for the door.

Or even better, first time they come around uninvited, let them catch you shagging on the kitchen table. They will not 'pop in while we were passing' ever again.

Am actually laughing out loud at this thread!

I'd say a mote would do the trick, maybe invest in some crocodiles too

Luckily PIL and my DP's are both more than 200 miles away so luckily I can't see me ever encountering this problem [smug]

lol at clearing AIBU

I just re read OP - I was a tad cross wasn't I

whatafuckingliberty

How did they get to look in the garage, out of interest? Wonder if there will be a Neighbourhood Watch message going out tonight matching their description?!

it was unlocked. Luckily the house is empty, else how embarrassing would THAT have been?

Silly old trouts.

Just think of all the fabulous new thread titles you will be able to start!

(And on a lighter note, if you forget your purse, she will be that much nearer to drop it off for you)

You seem to have calmed down a bit, MamaG. I felt invaded enough when PILs checked out our new place on Google streetview! They were a bit miffed that typing the address in didn't take them to our exact location.

dear oh dear - I feel for you, I really do. However, there is nothing they can do in terms of whether or not you buy the house, and they might just have been showing an interest in where their son and heir will be living, since it is so close to home.

I took my parents to see the house I was thinking of buying before I put an offer on it - but that was my parents, a subtly different scenario.

However - 5 minutes away?? Argh! My MIL is 15 mins away and she is here most days, granted we have only been here for 3 months and it is still a novelty for her but I can't in all honesty see it changing. She is lovely, thank goodness, but it was such a relief when she went away for 10 days

How did they manage to look round? Surely it's off the market if you're buying it?

You are a very brave lady MamaG. 5 minutes FFS! You'll never get rid of them. They'll always be popping in!

Well, that is a sackable offence isn't it? What did you say to them? They sound like comedy characters in some terrible sitcom.

Give the neighbours a description of your stalkers PIL (and if possible a photo) and tell them to call the police if they spot either of them loitering around your house.

That should sort it!

The last thing you want when you've just moved is PIL poking around your rear entrance...

I was hyperventilating just reading the OP.

I've found moving to a neighbouring country the best solution.

Can't believe you're moving nearer to your pil, MamaG.

Why? Why? Why?

I expect we'll be seeing a lot of you on the AIBU and Relationship boards then?

I very snippily said "I don't care about the neighbour's garden and we KNOW it needs bits doing, thats why we paid £8k under the asking price" then I said "you fucking nosy bastard" in my head

Poor you!

One of our friends looked around our house just before we moved in - yes actually wondered around inside it, as the key had been left for us to measure up for curtains later that day!!! I couldn't believe it and was really upset at the time - actually I'm getting cross thinking about it now.

Are you certain you said it in your head?

OMG

What loons, how horrible, are they like that in every aspect of your life? My SMIL used to do things like hat, how horrid, what an invasion of your personal family stuff.

I would have words or better yet get DH to tell them to back off. Creepy.

My friend moved just 10 mins away from her MIL.

And lasted all of 8 months before moving 2 hours away

Her MIL pocketing one of their keys to secretly get a copy made for herself was what led her to phone the estate agents....

I live 5 mins away from PIL and love it. Mind you I probably see them once a week at most and I love my MIL, we drive each other crazy sometimes and I wish she was more involved with the dc but when the cips are down she'd do anything she could to help and vice versa.

Am definately staying 275 miles from my parents though

God the very thought of them having a key!

My mate's Mum and Dad have a key to her house and they let themselves in one night after receiving no reply to their knock, to find their daughter being taken from behind by her DH on a furry rug in front of hte fire

Never let them have a key. My ex DP's parents used to come round every Sunday at 3pm and stay until 7.30pm regardless of whether we were there or not. His mum used to go through all the food cupboards and draw up shopping lists for us of what she thought we needed rather than what we actually ate. Then she'd sit down and watch us cook telling us we were doing it wrong. His dad then used to get into trouble for saying how nice the meal was once we'd cooked it.

How glad am I that I don't have to go through that now