Midwifes - what do you honestly think about people trying for a baby during Covid?

VinoMerino · 2021-01-25T19:15:10+00:00

I went to reach out of my precious midwife to ask what she knew about ttc and the vaccine, as I'm getting so much conflicted info but I'm worried she'll judge me for even thinking of deliberately getting pregnant right now. Am I being stupid? Midwives, what are your thoughts on people actively trying to get pregnant during all of this?

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VinoMerino · 25/01/2021 19:29

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MrsTerryPratchett · 25/01/2021 19:32

My old midwife, who is now a friend, is too concerned with safety and support for mums to care. She wouldn't judge. Her FB is full of lovely warm feelings about new life.

Chouxbuncity · 25/01/2021 19:34

I doubt people young enough to conceive will be getting the vaccine for some time now. I imagine midwives realise that women all have different circumstances regarding TTC x

CharlieD2020 · 25/01/2021 19:57

I was seen by a midwife yesterday for reduced movement. I asked if there had been an increase in pregnancies since Covid hit (I've heard so much about lockdown babies) and she said yes. She also said something along the lines of "so some people are actually trying to get pregnant during a pandemic!". She said it in a way that made me think she definitely disapproved/thought it was a weird or wreckless thing to try during a pandemic. My pregnancy was very much planned, I just smiled sweetly and bit my tongue..

laura2109 · 25/01/2021 20:49

Well, people can't really be stopped from TTC, besides it's not really surprising that there'd be an increase during the pandemic... People reconsider what's really important to them, and being confined, presumably people quickly run out of things to do 😂

Subordinateclause · 25/01/2021 21:09

Friend is a midwife and recently had a baby, conceived (purposely) after first lockdown began.

Sceptre86 · 25/01/2021 21:11

I am worried about the judgement more so from family as I work with patients in a public facing role so a higher than average risk of catching covid-19. I assumed it would take me longer to conceive as I have been on the pill a long while since I had my youngest and am that bit older. I had hoped by then covid wouldn't be an issue. I fell pregnant within two months.

SkyBlue20 · 25/01/2021 21:13

Friend of mine is a midwife and conceived during the pandemic, is now 20 weeks pregnant herself. It probably varies from midwife to midwife I guess.

Umbridge34 · 25/01/2021 21:21

I know a midwife who is pregnant and it was planned.

We are ttc our second right now, have been trying 18 months, I'm not about to stop trying for some unspecified amount of time because of the pandemic.

Starstella21 · 25/01/2021 22:36

I am a midwife and I'm pregnant, it's planned, my colleagues are very happy for me.

I think you see overthinking it to be honest, it's your decision and your midwife should be there to support you in that.

At the end of the day life has to carry on in some way or another despite this pandemic and babies are very much part of that. They are also a midwives bread and butter remember.
No matter what profession you are in people will always have their own view and different opinions, some are better at remaining professionalism than others too.

Starstella21 · 25/01/2021 22:38

Sorry about typos third pregnancy tiredness has got me 😴

rorosemary · 25/01/2021 23:33

I met a woman who decided that the pandemic was a great time to get pregnant because she didn't have a job at the moment anyway. She figured she might use her time having a baby and hopefully finding a job again afterwards.

I got pregnant via ivf just before the first lockdown in my countty. I'm 41 and didn't have the time to wait (plus I'd been having unsuccessfull fertility treatments for the 7 years prior to that, so felt I shouldn't waste any time)

GrandTheftWalrus · 26/01/2021 04:32

I've had a miscarriage and currently 25 weeks pregnant during the pandemic. Neither were planned. I fell pregnant just after the 1st lockdown was announced. Lost it in May. Fell pregnant again in August. The only planning that went into that one was "we shall start trying again after our September holiday" bubs had other ideas!

Crabbypaddy · 26/01/2021 04:52

I had my baby in August (second baby) and found the full thing very stressful. All the restrictions on birthing partners etc had a massive impact on me. Between that and pre eclampsia I’m put off being pregnant again sadly. But I can’t see why people should hold off if a baby is something they want, the world goes on regardless of Covid despite what some people and the media would have you believe!

MusicalTrifleMonkey · 26/01/2021 05:16

When I was pregnant/gave birth all the midwives said they were fully expecting and were seeing an increase of pregnancies due to the first lockdown. I heard no judgement. One midwife told me certain times of year always see an increase in babies, ie the festive period is a big conception time. People have babies and they won’t stop having babies, people have been having babies during worse times than this in history. I highly doubt any midwife is judging.

MusicalTrifleMonkey · 26/01/2021 05:18

Also, I had my baby in October and the pregnancy, labour and birth were not affected by Covid and they were great. Raising a Covid baby has been rubbish. Really lonely and unsupportive. My family haven’t yet met my son, he will likely be 6/7/8 months old by the time they do.
I wouldn’t do it again.

Wherethereshope · 26/01/2021 05:49

I think it's a difficult one as whose to say when the end of the pandemic will be.

Babyjune21 · 26/01/2021 05:58

We had planned to fall pregnant I’m due in June and regardless of what people though or say about it I wasn’t putting my life and family on hold because of covid , we have no idea how long this could carry on for we already lost a year of our life to it

Helenknowsbest · 26/01/2021 06:15

I think you're overthinking it, life goes on and people have babies. I started ttc for baby no 2 in July and my family were ecstatic for us. I wouldn't put my life on hold because of covid xx

Lucieintheskye · 26/01/2021 06:20

I have a midwife family member who, along with her colleagues, think TTC just for the fun of it during lockdown is ridiculous. Those who have fertility issues should absolutely be TTC regardless but they're seeing more and more people who've decided to get up the duff because there's nothing else to do. Financial stability is another risk factor and she's seen a lot of patients who've lost their job, their relationship is failing or they're struggling to feed their kids due to covid who've planned a pregnancy to give them something to look forward to.

Roselilly36 · 26/01/2021 06:28

I don’t think it’s a midwifes position to judge any mother regardless. People need to live their lives.

MiddleParking · 26/01/2021 06:28

@Lucieintheskye

I have a midwife family member who, along with her colleagues, think TTC just for the fun of it during lockdown is ridiculous. Those who have fertility issues should absolutely be TTC regardless but they're seeing more and more people who've decided to get up the duff because there's nothing else to do. Financial stability is another risk factor and she's seen a lot of patients who've lost their job, their relationship is failing or they're struggling to feed their kids due to covid who've planned a pregnancy to give them something to look forward to.

Hope your midwife family member doesn’t let the door hit her in the arse on the way out.

IDontDrinkTea · 26/01/2021 06:32

Midwife here and just started ttc myself (and I’ve had my vaccine too for what it’s worth). Covid is clearly going to be around a while, you can’t expect people to stop having babies for the foreseeable, and if they did stop having babies I’d probably lose my job security 😂

ChalkDinosaur · 26/01/2021 06:41

I'm saying this with total kindness - if you get pregnant and become a parent you will face judgement about nearly every aspect of your parenting, especially if you are looking for it. The best thing you can do for yourself now is to decide what's right for you and your family, do it, and try not to seek universal approval for it. Definitely research the vaccine but don't let the opinions of an individual unconnected to you/your partner affect your decision about whether or not to ttc.

Starstella21 · 26/01/2021 06:55

@Lucieintheskye

I have a midwife family member who, along with her colleagues, think TTC just for the fun of it during lockdown is ridiculous. Those who have fertility issues should absolutely be TTC regardless but they're seeing more and more people who've decided to get up the duff because there's nothing else to do. Financial stability is another risk factor and she's seen a lot of patients who've lost their job, their relationship is failing or they're struggling to feed their kids due to covid who've planned a pregnancy to give them something to look forward to.

Wow as a midwife I find this hard to believe and ridiculous. I'd hate to work at this midwives trust!!!