Pregnant with no. 3 / 4 / 5...?!

[LimeLeafLizard]

Just wondering if anyone else is pg with their 3rd, 4th, 5th, or more?!

I am newly pg with baby number 4 and finding it a bit different this time.

Yesterday I flicked through a couple of magazines but the content didn't seem that relevant to me. I am quietly happy but not nearly as excited or nervous as I was before, especially the first time.

I know what kind of birth I want (same as the last two times) and I don't need to buy any stuff, so there doesn't seem so much to think about, at least until the scan.

I am also a bit worried about how other people are going to react when we tell them. There seems to be a general view that wanting 4 children must make us mad.

Hope I am not alone?!

[EmilieFloge]

Hello Lime, my own dates were 13th January but from LMP she had written in my notes it's the 16th. So it's gone 9 days back, apparently! The sonographer initially went on HC and said it was the 5th but the machine processed it as the 7th, I think it kind of adds all the measurements together and averages them, or something...so the 7th it is. And I've decided to stick with it till the 20 week disagrees!

If you're not confused by now, you're smarter than me

[EmilieFloge]

PS...so pleased to see you're having a Valentine's baby! That's just lovely x

[ValiumQueen]

Mine was conceived on Valentines day!

[EmilieFloge]

blondiep14 (32) DC#3 EDD 18.9.12
TruthSweet (32) DC#4 EDD 19.09.12 30 weeks
ValiumQueen (43) DC#3 EDD 1.11.12 24 weeks
4kidsplusbump (35) DC#5 EDD 06.11.12 23+3
annelid (36) DC#7 EDD 20.12.12
Cravingtomatoes (38) DC#4 EDD 23.12.12 16+5
EmilieFloge (38) DC#3 EDD 07.01.13 14+5
SpringFlowers (39) DC#4 EDD 18.01.13 13+0
LimeLeafLizard (37) DC#4 EDD 13.2.13 9+3
morecoffee (32) Dc#3 EDD 16.2.13
HaitchJay (33) DC#4 EDD Feb or March somewhere between 4 and 8 weeks
sevenfatbubbles (34) DC#3 EDD ?? 5 weeks

[LimeLeafLizard]

Hello again morecoffee how exciting to have a scan next week... hope all goes well.

Valium that was a romantic night that worked out well then!

EF I confess you have lost me a bit there, but I take the outcome as your EDD being 7 Jan... for now!

[ValiumQueen]

It was the only romantic night that month as the kids were both ill. Clearly less is more!

I am really encouraged to be on a board with people with more children than me. This is just number 3 , but the number of people who have said 'I must be mad', or 'hoping for a boy then'. We wanted a third. If I were younger we would have more probably.

[4kidsplusbump]

Valium it only takes once - with 4 kids already it's not like DH and I get much time 'alone' together (if you get the picture!)

Well I have officially had enough now! Am 24 weeks tomorrow and my lady bits definately feel like they have done 5 pregnancies! Am currently having trouble sitting and definately standing...which is a little worrying as I still have at least 3 months to go.... Went to GP's this morning but apparently not really anything they can do, but have got signed off work for 2 weeks - so just got to try and not do too much around the house (which is difficult with 4 kids!) Fortunately he just wrote 'pregnancy related' on my sick note, as I really don't want to have to go into all the details with work Oh the joys of pregnancy...!

[ValiumQueen]

I am hardly feeling any pregnancy niggles due to the pain in my ankle and caring for DD. I am pleased with how well I am doing so far really. Sorry you are suffering 4 kids and glad GP was supportive.

[LimeLeafLizard]

4kids ouch poor you! Thank goodness the doc was sensitive about the sick note - not something you really want to have to explain to your boss!

and Valium ouch to you too! What is up with your ankle? (Sorry if you have posted this upthread and I missed it).

I'm meeting my Mum tomorrow - first time I'll have seen her since I got pg because she's been abroad. I was going to suggest taking DC2 & 3 swimming together and then realised she might guess if she saw me in my costume. I don't think most people would notice yet but my Mum has eagle eyes for how much weight I've put on / lost!

[4kidsplusbump]

Thanks Valium and Lime. My body feels so battered at the moment I could just cry about it! I don't know how people have lots more kids - I definately feel like this pregnancy is my limit - I think i would literally fall to bits if I had any more!

I am also wondering how I am going to manage 2 weeks camping in the summer hols. Hoping things erm 'improve' a little! Am now considering in investing in a sun lounger to lay on and making DH run about after the kids for the 2 weeks! Obviously this holiday was booked before the pregnancy happened - definately wound't have been booking this now!

Are you holding out on telling your mum then Lime? I have to admit I was a little nervous at telling mine about this one as we were adament we weren't having any more!

[ValiumQueen]

My mum was very angry to find out I am having another at 43. She thought she was going to lose me during my first birth, and she is a worrier at the best of times. It is all motivated by love, and it was the reaction I had expected. Dad just grinned from ear to ear, and patted DH on the back.

I sprained my ankle on Wednesday. We have three concrete steps leading up to the front door, and I forgot they were there and just walked off after locking the front door. I had just carried a screaming DD2 to the car, so thankfully she and her sister were safely strapped in, as it was a few minutes before I could stand.

I have not had it checked as DD2 has chickenpox (since Thursday) and I knew she was coming down with something. It is not broken, but I think I need to get it checked out as it still hurtsm with shooting pains up my leg. At this stage I would think it should be a bit better. Bruised up past ankle, under foot and on top, and all the way to first joint on toes. Like wearing a black sock, and very swollen still.

Very glad I was not carrying baby at the time, and bump is blissfully unaware.

[ValiumQueen]

I am going camping in a few weeks. (must be mad)

[HaitchJay]

I'm hitting a symptom phase. Am tired & ravenous.
Hoping to hear from hospital this week. Am also hoping for a scan but that's probably too optimistic!

[LimeLeafLizard]

It sounds horrible 4kids. Until I had my own, I had no idea how much trauma women go through to have children. Just think about Michelle Duggar (from that US show) who has 19!

How funny you're both off camping! I've just been reading a weather thread that predicted a warmer spell starting in the next 10 days or so - hope it is true!

Valium hope you get your ankle checked soon, it sounds bad - wonder if the doc can prescribe you some pg friendly pain killers. How lucky the kids were already strapped in the car though - it would have been awful to have a 2 year old on the loose near a road and unable to chase her.

Yes, I'm not going to tell Mum just yet if I can help it. She is notoriously critical and I would rather put off hearing her opinions for a bit longer. I think she'll think I'm being ridiculous and over-doing it, even though she has 4 children herself.

Hello Haitch, hope you get your scan and some inkling of a due date!

[4kidsplusbump]

Glad I am not the only crazy one doing the camping Valium - and you are around the same amount pregnant as me! I will be nearly 28 weeks by the time we go - think I may have to stop drinking for the whole entire 2 weeks, of I may spend all my time back and forwards to the toilet block.... Ouch - the ankle sounds painful, and these things are always worse when you know you still have all the other kids to look after.

My mum was also a bit cross initially valium about this pregnancy -mainly because I pay her to look after the DC while I'm at work, but it's now unlikely I'll go back to work with 5 - I'm already finding it really hard working with 4! So I think she was moaning as me not working will mean no extra money for her.

Well I have sent DH out to buy the reduced sun lounger I saw the other day. Hopefully they will have some left! I am going to take it camping and do my best to chill out over the 2 weeks we are away!

[ValiumQueen]

Get a loo for in the tent. I have a Kampa Khazi, although will need to use the sheewee as if I got down I would not get up again. I put a plastic bag in it, with cat litter at the bottom, so there are no spills or embarrassing bucket trips in the morning. Best camping buy ever, apart from tent obviously. Bit drafty and damp without a tent.

I shudder when I think what could have happened tbh. I would have either squished her, or watched her get squished. Then again with a child in my arms I would have been more careful.

[TruthSweet]

Definitely get a camping loo - I went camping when 6m pg with DD3 (DD1 was 3y & DD2 was 1y) and we were put right by the toilet block (about 50 yrds away) and I still used ours as it was flipping freezing at 3am.

[4kidsplusbump]

thanks for the loo tips! May take your advice, as I currently average about 4 or 5 loo trips a night! Not so much of a problem at home, but not much fun treking out to the toilet block that many times in the night!

Well have rang work this morning to tell them that I am pregnant and also that I've been signed off for 2 weeks. Feeling a little better this morning - my mum has taken the kids anyway so I can hopefully get some rest. DH is going to speak to his boss today to see if he can not take a lunch break, but finish early for the next few months, so at least I have a bit more help around tea time/ bedtime (obviously one of the more manic parts of the day!)

[Hennycluckington]

Hi all, Im currently 11 weeks with #3 (planned) have ds (11) & dd (8). We are all very excited and it hasnt even crosed my mind to feel or be embarrased about having #3. Its our decision.
Its biggish gap between my last pregnancy though and Im just over 35 now so its a little different, but trying to enjoy every min....despite the overwhelming need to crawl into bed being every other thought
Im 1 of 5 ( 5 in 8 years) and my mother used to get all kinds of insensitve remarks, but she never let it worry her, we had a fabulous childhood.
I think those people who felt the need to comment are probably now thinking how nice it must be for my mum to have her 5 grown up children around her and how close we all are.

Congratulation to you all.

[HaitchJay]

Think the symptoms are kicking in now. V tired , nauseus(fruit gums solve that!),stretchy achy stomach etc.

Nothing in the post today , can't believe I'm so desperate to go to hospital

Hi Henny I've a similar gap between dd1/2 and dd3 it's quite nice.

[4kidsplusbump]

Congratulations Henny. I don't know about everyone else but I think people think it's lots of kids because mine are close together (my oldest has just turned 6) and this is baby no. 5 for us! Good to hear from someone who grown up as one of 5! My oldest 3 seem to love always having someone to play with (no. 4 is only 11 months, so a bit too young to join in at the moment!) In fact DD1 seems gutted that this baby will definately be our last (DH has since had the snip!)

Hope you get your appointment through soon Haitch. At least lots of pregnancy symptoms are a good sign!

[Moominsarescary]

Hi all I'm 9+5 weeks pg with dc 5

Ds1 is 17, ds2 is 9, ds3 is 16months and I lost ds 4 last year at 20 weeks due to incompetant cervix.

Had a scan at 7 weeks due to a small bleed but everything looks fine so far

[LimeLeafLizard]

Hello Moomins! So sorry to hear about the loss of your DS4 last year, it must be very hard.

Will they give you a cervical stitch this time?

I am 10 weeks today so similar stage to you.

[HaitchJay]

Hi Moomins, sorry to hear about dc4. Will they keep a close eye this time?

[morecoffeemorecoffee]

Hi moomins so sorry for the loss of your 4th child.

Hope everyone's ok. Got my scan tomorrow, so excited! Anyone else got a scan coming up?