4 year old DD just been uninvited to a party tomorrow

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Hi, I am a bit shocked as I have received a text from a mother saying her daughter has been upset by my daughter this week and so she'd rather she doesn't come to her daughter's party tomorrow. She doesn't know exactly what happened but doesn't want her daughter upset at her party. I will ask my daughter what happened in the morning but I am feeling dreadful. It's going to be so awkward at pre school for the rest of the term. How should I handle this?

I’d ask the teacher if anything happened in the week and explain why you’re asking

Well Batshit Mum will have to explain to her upset child why her friend didn't come to the party, because her DD will be very confused and have no recollection of being upset and why in the morning!

You do know that mother will be here tomorrow posting that her child burst into tears as her best friend couldn’t come to her party.
Surely if anything awful had occurred then staff would have mentioned it. Kids fall in and out of friendships over tiny non events at that age.

So sorry, OP, that this has happened. This is the second thread I've read about 4-year-olds uninviting others and parental politics. Bizarre. This other mother needs to chill.out and realise that kids fall out! She sounds like she's nuts and totally high maintenance. Crazy woman.
Take DD somewhere lovely for the day instead and get her a small present.

Don't reply. Not worth getting drawn into.

Def don't reply! Take your DD out for the day and don't even think about it again! Batshit crazy mum of a PFB!

Absolutely bonkers (the other mother). She’s going to have a fun time in reception...

'I’d ask the teacher if anything happened in the week and explain why you’re asking '

Definitely

I have an almost 4 year old who has a best friend who is occasionally at pick up her worst enemy who she is never going to speak to ever again.

I tell her in an age appropriate way I am sure they will work things out. They are best friends again the following day.

Engaging in her drama to this level does not bode well for this little girls future.

However agree with previous poster to check with Pre-School nothing serious has happened. Unlikely imo however.

My nearly seven year old came out of school crying last week and said

“Mummy! I’m NOT going to x’s party and he’s not coming to mine”

[awkward... invitations already swapped, parties are the same weekend]

Obviously it has since blown over but a weaker mum hearing that sort of reaction the day before the party might have caved.

I’d ignore and move on. It’s a bit sad but they’re four, it happens lots...

Did you reply?

I did reply with a - I will have a chat with my DD. Wish I had not even replied though. Have removed that mother's details from my phone. Taking DD to soft play today with a sweet friend. Moving on, trying to ignore horrid behaviour from adults.....Thank you for great advice x

Eurgh
I hate parents like this, my daughter had a very similar experience. Her ‘best friend’ started being mean, leaving her out of games, saying she couldn’t play because her toys were better than DD’s, she told DD that she had a better bedroom, a better backpack, a better sparkly dress and so on...anyway my DD started saying she didn’t want to be friends with her anymore and took herself off to play with some other children. I then got a very nasty message from the mother saying my DD was purposefully excluding her child, and I should make DD play with her, my answer was no way, I’m not going to force my child to be friends with a mean girl.
Ironically this mother was convinced her DD was going to be bullied when she was older, but to be honest she is more likely to become the bully, from my experience of her behaviours. Always excused, exceptionally spoilt, and has a real nasty streak.
These people are best avoided, the drama gives me such a headache.

I'd definitely see teacher "just wondered what happened at school as dc was uninvited to dc party for being mean'

Just to let the teacher know the DM is one of 'those'

Suspect she already knows....