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Worried about my son who can’t find anywhere to live.

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justacastle · Today 16:30

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DS finished university and has spent 18 months applying for jobs (450+). A few interviews who say they recruited internally or need someone with more experience (that old chestnut). Most just never reply. We live in London.

He finally gets a job but it’s in Oxfordshire. The company will let him stay at their accommodation (usually for customers) for a maximum of two weeks.

He cannot find any accommodation after this time. He has tried spare room app but when he gets a response people are asking for females only or more often there is no reply. He messages them a couple more times but nothing.

He doesn’t drive but willing to walk/cycle. He does have T1 diabetes so that is a consideration with distance.

He then put an ‘I’m looking for’ ad another site and a woman contacted him to say that, following throat surgery, she would be renting out her 2 bed house and moving in with family. It looked amazing and the woman said that the bills & council tax. A 25 minute walk to work. Paid the holding fee and arranged viewing for Sunday (he starts work on Monday).

DS was excited about job & house finally the months of angst were coming to an end.

So this morning he received an email from the lady saying that the rental company (?) wanted an extra £750 deposit before they would let him view the property. She said that she would pay £500 but he would need to pay another £250.

DS asked who this company was (not found on companies house) and their contact details so he could discuss it with them. She replied that they ’do not speak to prospective tenants’.

She also sent him her passport details by email as proof of her identity. Trouble was that the Passport had a spelling mistake in her name 🙄 🚩

Bank notified & they’re dealing with it.

Big problem is now DS is starting work on Monday but will have nowhere to live by the end of the month. As it’s quite a tourist area the Airbnbs and bed & breakfasts are thousands. He’s on the list at local estate agents but he has no salary history yet. They are really out of his price range but we’ll help him.

Just as an aside UC have paid him nothing for months, just the odd £15 here and there.

He’s desperately worried that he will lose his job.

Any ideas folks?
I’m so sorry for the long post.

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Treylime · Today 18:33

MrMucker · Today 17:59

If it's Wallingford then he should cast his net to Reading, or West of Reading in Tilehurst.
It's a short train ride to Wallingford and also a great place to live on days off, plenty to do for a young un who's just left home.
Try Reading.

There isn't a train station in Wallingford. (Only a steam train line) The nearest station is Cholsey.

RaininSummer · Today 18:36

justacastle · Today 18:21

He hasn’t had any earnings. He hasn’t been able to get an appointment with them and all his messages have gone unanswered. He has attended all the training sessions but they are separate to the uc people.

This seems odd. As a newly claiming young person, he should actually have weekly appointments and be entitled to 335 quid a month. Has he missed an appointment accidently and been sanctioned perhaps as that could explain it.

Dorothyperky · Today 18:38

Swindon is cheaper than Reading.
There's a Swindon to Oxford bus (S6). I'm not sure of the drop off points.
Lots of HMOs.

user1471538283 · Today 18:39

If it's a big enough employer he could put up a notice or send an email asking for a room or roommates?

I think spare room vacancies change a lot? What about Rightmove when they need an extra roommate for professionals?

justacastle · Today 18:45

RaininSummer · Today 18:36

This seems odd. As a newly claiming young person, he should actually have weekly appointments and be entitled to 335 quid a month. Has he missed an appointment accidently and been sanctioned perhaps as that could explain it.

No not missed any appointments. It was fine when he was living in Wales after university. When he moved back down here he couldn’t get to see anyone regularly. He was advised to close and reopen his account and that prompted a payment of £15.

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TommyPickler · Today 18:48

justacastle · Today 16:30

(nc for this)
DS finished university and has spent 18 months applying for jobs (450+). A few interviews who say they recruited internally or need someone with more experience (that old chestnut). Most just never reply. We live in London.

He finally gets a job but it’s in Oxfordshire. The company will let him stay at their accommodation (usually for customers) for a maximum of two weeks.

He cannot find any accommodation after this time. He has tried spare room app but when he gets a response people are asking for females only or more often there is no reply. He messages them a couple more times but nothing.

He doesn’t drive but willing to walk/cycle. He does have T1 diabetes so that is a consideration with distance.

He then put an ‘I’m looking for’ ad another site and a woman contacted him to say that, following throat surgery, she would be renting out her 2 bed house and moving in with family. It looked amazing and the woman said that the bills & council tax. A 25 minute walk to work. Paid the holding fee and arranged viewing for Sunday (he starts work on Monday).

DS was excited about job & house finally the months of angst were coming to an end.

So this morning he received an email from the lady saying that the rental company (?) wanted an extra £750 deposit before they would let him view the property. She said that she would pay £500 but he would need to pay another £250.

DS asked who this company was (not found on companies house) and their contact details so he could discuss it with them. She replied that they ’do not speak to prospective tenants’.

She also sent him her passport details by email as proof of her identity. Trouble was that the Passport had a spelling mistake in her name 🙄 🚩

Bank notified & they’re dealing with it.

Big problem is now DS is starting work on Monday but will have nowhere to live by the end of the month. As it’s quite a tourist area the Airbnbs and bed & breakfasts are thousands. He’s on the list at local estate agents but he has no salary history yet. They are really out of his price range but we’ll help him.

Just as an aside UC have paid him nothing for months, just the odd £15 here and there.

He’s desperately worried that he will lose his job.

Any ideas folks?
I’m so sorry for the long post.

Sorry if this has been suggested already but i have a couple of leftfield ideas! What about a mobile home rental? Cheaper than an airbnb. Also, a very cheap motorhome or trailer tent on a nearby campsite? Not ideal i know but some campsites take a long staying pitch and have nice facilities. Similarly, a glamping pod?

Burntout01 · Today 18:51

OP a quick search on trivago shows rooms in the Wallingford area from £31 a night, if booking a few weeks in advance and YHA from £40 a night. I am sure they wont be luxurious but they dont need to be, just a place to sleep and shower until he finds some decent accommodation, which he will ( likely a room in a shared house to start with which is fine.

TheSquareMile · Today 18:52

justacastle · Today 18:45

No not missed any appointments. It was fine when he was living in Wales after university. When he moved back down here he couldn’t get to see anyone regularly. He was advised to close and reopen his account and that prompted a payment of £15.

@justacastle

When he logs into his account, does it show when his next payment is due?

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Jamlighter · Today 19:01

Open rent wallingford you can set alert if anything comes available. Also challenge the benefit situation, that can't be right - he needs to check his claim and escalate it as can be backdated a month in some circs which may not be much but better than nothing

Sashamans4 · Today 19:06

If you look on Facebook there’s a local
group called wallingford matters , they are great at helping with all things local
and might be able to help look.
for accommodation , wallingford has an x40
bus direct to both Oxford and reading that runs every 20 mins and also buses to didcot regularly which has a train station as well as other villages .

RaininSummer · Today 19:07

justacastle · Today 18:45

No not missed any appointments. It was fine when he was living in Wales after university. When he moved back down here he couldn’t get to see anyone regularly. He was advised to close and reopen his account and that prompted a payment of £15.

All a bit odd as when a claimant moves they just need to change their address not close the claim. I wonder if he was late in reporting the move and so had received overpaid housing element thus causing the lower payment . Anyway diverting from your actual question but I suggest he actually goes into the job centre and finds out what is going on.

nomorekitchenislandsplease · Today 19:08

OP you might want to start a thread whose title asks if anyone can offer accommodation short term , saying which area he needs,. There just may be someone who can help or is maybe looking for a house/ pet sitter. Or he could try TrustedHousesitters

Posywosey · Today 19:08

Try joining any local facebook groups and asking there. Ours generally have a lot of stuff like this and people are helpful.

justacastle · Today 19:14

RaininSummer · Today 19:07

All a bit odd as when a claimant moves they just need to change their address not close the claim. I wonder if he was late in reporting the move and so had received overpaid housing element thus causing the lower payment . Anyway diverting from your actual question but I suggest he actually goes into the job centre and finds out what is going on.

He didn’t close it when he moved. He did it some months later at the suggestion of the trainer. He tried going into the job centre but they wouldn’t even talk to him without an appointment. He’s sent dozens of messages to them and they completely blank him. Frustrating.

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Wellbeing24 · Today 19:20

OP, I would advise your son calls the UC helpline 0800 328 5644 to find out what's happening on his claim, his messages should not be ignored, they are supposed to be reviewed on a daily basis.
If he has no money coming in at all, then he should be receiving some payment and definitely not just £15!
If he asks for urgent escalation to a Case Manager due to severe financial hardship, that should hopefully result in someone at DWP reviewing his claim.

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