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Worried about my son who can’t find anywhere to live.

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justacastle · 14/08/2026 16:30

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DS finished university and has spent 18 months applying for jobs (450+). A few interviews who say they recruited internally or need someone with more experience (that old chestnut). Most just never reply. We live in London.

He finally gets a job but it’s in Oxfordshire. The company will let him stay at their accommodation (usually for customers) for a maximum of two weeks.

He cannot find any accommodation after this time. He has tried spare room app but when he gets a response people are asking for females only or more often there is no reply. He messages them a couple more times but nothing.

He doesn’t drive but willing to walk/cycle. He does have T1 diabetes so that is a consideration with distance.

He then put an ‘I’m looking for’ ad another site and a woman contacted him to say that, following throat surgery, she would be renting out her 2 bed house and moving in with family. It looked amazing and the woman said that the bills & council tax. A 25 minute walk to work. Paid the holding fee and arranged viewing for Sunday (he starts work on Monday).

DS was excited about job & house finally the months of angst were coming to an end.

So this morning he received an email from the lady saying that the rental company (?) wanted an extra £750 deposit before they would let him view the property. She said that she would pay £500 but he would need to pay another £250.

DS asked who this company was (not found on companies house) and their contact details so he could discuss it with them. She replied that they ’do not speak to prospective tenants’.

She also sent him her passport details by email as proof of her identity. Trouble was that the Passport had a spelling mistake in her name 🙄 🚩

Bank notified & they’re dealing with it.

Big problem is now DS is starting work on Monday but will have nowhere to live by the end of the month. As it’s quite a tourist area the Airbnbs and bed & breakfasts are thousands. He’s on the list at local estate agents but he has no salary history yet. They are really out of his price range but we’ll help him.

Just as an aside UC have paid him nothing for months, just the odd £15 here and there.

He’s desperately worried that he will lose his job.

Any ideas folks?
I’m so sorry for the long post.

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ExplodingSmittens · 04/09/2026 08:22

justacastle · 31/08/2026 22:11

@TheSquareMile he actually went into the estate agent on Saturday and has a viewing for this next week. 🤞

So glad he’s started the job and it’s all going well. I hope the viewing goes well too.

If he does need a bike, these people refurbish bikes and sell them in and are based in Witney.

Getting a provisional licence is a pain with T1 and he has an awful lot to deal with right now. Perhaps something to look at when he’s settled in his new accommodation?

justacastle · 04/09/2026 08:53

Thank you @ExplodingSmittens I have passed that onto him. His company does the cycle to work scheme (discounts and loan for bikes and accessories) but he doesn’t have access to that until December. This would be an affordable option. I think the driving lessons & car will have to wait as we just can’t afford it at the moment.

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ExplodingSmittens · 04/09/2026 08:58

justacastle · 04/09/2026 08:53

Thank you @ExplodingSmittens I have passed that onto him. His company does the cycle to work scheme (discounts and loan for bikes and accessories) but he doesn’t have access to that until December. This would be an affordable option. I think the driving lessons & car will have to wait as we just can’t afford it at the moment.

I get that. It will be expensive for him living away from home. Does he have his provisional licence yet?

Treylime · 04/09/2026 12:56

Glad its going well for him. Wallingford is a nice town, there is a big free music festival there this weekend.

justacastle · 04/09/2026 16:55

Treylime · 04/09/2026 12:56

Glad its going well for him. Wallingford is a nice town, there is a big free music festival there this weekend.

Yes his work closed early today so they could all attend.

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ExplodingSmittens · 05/09/2026 10:45

justacastle · 04/09/2026 16:55

Yes his work closed early today so they could all attend.

Hope he enjoyed it. It sounds as though all the hard work he put in to get the job is paying off Smile

justacastle · Today 18:10

Hi, just another little update about the scam rental.

The bank have finally come back to him after putting his account on hold for four weeks making life very difficult. They will not refund his £250. I’m not sure exactly why, they haven’t said. He is going to appeal but I don’t hold out a lot of hope. 😞

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croydon15 · Today 18:36

Your poor DS it seems unfair, he can try the ombudsman, wishing him luck.

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