how do you split money between yourself and DH?

[deb21]

OK - thought I would post here as I don't know if its a bit personal to ask friends.

Before by DD was born, DH and I split everything (mortgage, bill, groceries) 50:50.

My paid part of maternity leave has just run out and I'm on SMP (440 quid per month).

I'm interested to know how much of this do other people keep for their day to day spends and how much goes into the household pot.

I'm just trying to discuss it with DH and he is hiding behind his laptop saying hmmm. I have suggested I keep 30 quid a week to cover my spends and put the rest in the mortgage pot - have no idea if I am being greedy or overly generous!

Would be interested to hear what other people do.

We have our own accounts and our salaries go into them. We then do a direct debit into the joint account (which frankly is just another account for me), out of which I pay nursery, food, drink, holidays etc. DH tends not to use it as I do the loin's share of the domestic stuff around the house.

Mortgage comes out of my salary (as I get paid on 23rd of the month and DH not til 31st) then he reimburses me by direct debit. When I am on ML, he just sloshes more into the joint account for the unpaid bit.

I also do the lion's share