School reported daughter's dream to social services, should I complain?

[Maya2233]

Hi, I need some advice. My daughter, she just turned four, is in reception.We have a very loving and beautiful relationship i never even shouted at her. I love her so much. Never had any complaint in nursery or never anything of any sort. So what happened is I went to pick her up today and the head teacher, she called me on the side and it was during the carpet time that she mentioned that mummy hit me on the head. the teacher who was there, was not the class teacher. class teacher was absent. She was another teacher. So she took her to the office and there my daughter, she said the same thing and then she said that it was a dream. So what they did is they reported this to the social services. I am so cross at this as she did mention that it was a dream. And when I went to pick her up and I asked her, the first thing she said was that mummy, I saw a dream last night that you hit me on the head. So I am so unhappy about this, and I don't know how to take this forward, because how can you complain this thing to the social services? The social services didn't even contact me.I don't know why would they bother about a dream. But I am so upset about this. Do I have any rights to complain about the teacher? The class teacher came today she was also surprized and said i know you guys and i am so sorry about this and i will handle everything.

Re reading your post i find it odd that your only concern is to complain and not to worry that your child is having bad dreams and why she is having bad dreams, and the fact as already pointed out that youve never shouted at her....she dreamt someone hit her, id start there

That’s utterly wrong and where the problem used to be when something dreadful happened and the cry was why didn't they raise it, share information to prevent the tragedy.

Concerns are taken away from a single decision maker to protect the child and share intelligence about what is happening for the child ~ to protect the child.

When my child was 4 she told her entire class that they were all invited to Disney land…..kids have imaginations!

Whenever these threads come up, I always say how much I wished someone had reported my mother. I was discussed at school, I know that but mother darling with the double barrelled surname, and senior teaching post, along with rp accent always got away with it. She would claim I’d thrown myself down the concrete steps at the front, or skinned myself climbing trees. I was basically a drama queen according to her. I’m nearly 68 now and have never forgotten.
If someone has concerns about your child, deal with it calmly and kindly, and be grateful that not only are they checking up on you, they are checking up where they really are needed.

Schools are not investigating agencies in matters of child protection. They are meant to collect information and pass it on. The filtering is meant to happen at social services level because they can access information we can’t. They operate in multi agency safeguarding hubs and can find out from police and health whether there have been, for example, police call outs to the home or suspicious A&E attendances.

but teachers DONT know which parents hot their kids, else they'd just report them all on day 1 and it would be fixed.

your kid told a teacher you hit her. then, when asked again, declared it was a dream. they don't KNOW it was a dream, she could just have got scared and said that to protect you.

it might have been ott to report it, but be grateful the school actively wants to protect kids.

she didn't lie. she told the teacher what happened but she's 4 so forgot to qualify it with "in my dream". she's 4 so had no idea the teacher would do anything, let alone report it on, because at 4 they don't understand that stuff.

You have no grounds to complain. School staff are mandated reporters. Wouldn't you rather them safeguard this kind of thing 10 times and be wrong everytime, than ignore it once and you end up with another dead child and lessons learned?