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Has anyone's children been in foster care/ respite?

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essbee · 08/05/2007 00:22

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essbee · 08/05/2007 00:23

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AitchTwoOh · 08/05/2007 00:29

not something i've experienced but dd's only 16 months. is everythign okay, essbee?

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essbee · 08/05/2007 00:31

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essbee · 08/05/2007 00:33

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AitchTwoOh · 08/05/2007 00:35

i'm sorry, i don't know anything about your situation. sending you strength, if you want to talk i'll be here for the next wee while.

dionnelorraine · 08/05/2007 00:37

You should be entitled to help. My sil fosters kids and she has fostered children for a week or 2 at a time as mum/dad were struggling for what ever reason. They would come back and stay every now and again, wether it be for a couple of nights to a couple of weeks or more.
You need to talk to your local foster care centre. They should be able to help.
Hope you are ok {{{hugs}}}

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essbee · 08/05/2007 00:45

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essbee · 08/05/2007 00:48

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serenity · 08/05/2007 00:50

Not quite the same but my bf (who's a CM) used to get paid by SS to mind a little girl as her brother had SN and the parents couldn't always cope. There was no judgement on the parents, it was the best way to deal with their difficult situation. Little girl was happy, parents were happy as DD was happy and it helped them keep their family together.

I hope you can get the help you need essbee, there's nothimg wrong with needing a break. No one can go on nonstop 24/7.

serenity · 08/05/2007 00:51

sorry essbee xposted with you. I really wish I could help you

dionnelorraine · 08/05/2007 00:52

Oh honey. Thats awful. I cant even begin to imagine how you must be feeling.
What I will do is talk to my SIL tomorrow and see if she knows what to do and I will post on here for you as soon as I have spoken to her.
Have tried looking at the foster care website, emailing and asking for advice? By the sounds of it, you probably have. Maybe the school can help? They may have contact of some kind?

newlifenewname · 08/05/2007 00:53

Essbee I know as well as you do that it has to be 'too late' before anybody properly steps in.

None of us wants things to get as bad as they have to be before help is offered and SS admit themselves that there role is not preventative - they merely pick up the pieces.

No advice, no help and no answers but heaps and heaps of sympathy.
I'm sorry.

KerryMum · 08/05/2007 00:56

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essbee · 08/05/2007 00:57

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newlifenewname · 08/05/2007 00:59

Kerrymum I'm genuinely interested in what you warn about foster care being a slippery slope. I have considered it when things were awful for us. What makes you conclude that if you don't mind saying?

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essbee · 08/05/2007 00:59

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essbee · 08/05/2007 01:04

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AitchTwoOh · 08/05/2007 01:07

oh essbee, how awful for you all.
i must go now but i hope that you get to sleep soon and that things somehow seem clearer in the morning.

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