My daughter is so difficult ALL the time. I can't handle it anymore.
This morning she didn't want cereal. She says she doesn't like it, although she liked it 2 days ago. I offered her cereal, toast or something out the fruit bowl. All I get is "don't like it, what can I have?". so I tell her the choices over and over and keep telling her there is nothing else. I can't afford to have 20 things in the house for her to choose from so I give her a few choices. I did the same yesterday and she ended up going to school with an empty stomach because she decided she doesn't like fruit (bullshit), cereal (more bullshit) or toast (all bullshitted out now!)
She wants a pan ou chocolate thing but we don't have any.
So this morning I tell her the choices and she turns her nose up, so I explain (yet again) about how some children have no food at all and how she needs to choose from something that we do have and not be so fussy. She still turns her nose up so I made the cereal anyway and put it on the table. I told her it was there and that is was up to her is she ate it or not. I can't force her to eat it after all.
After lots of wingeing she sits at the table and eats a mouthful and then complains that she doesn't like it so I said it was up to her if she ate it and if not she would go to school hungry. She had a small orange instead.
Then I am about to go and get washed (which is the end of breakfast time every day) and she asks for a hot chocolate, I say no as I don't have the time to make it. She starts saying "well what can I have then?" in a whining way and I explain YET AGAIN that she should of had one of the choices I gave her. She says "why won't you give me food" in a 'your starving me sort of way'. I lost the plot. I called her a spoilt little girl and a brat and swore numerous times. I went upstairs to get washed and she started following me crying but I told her to keep away from me as I knew how mad I was.
What she wants me to do of course is spend 15mins showing her absolutely everything in the fridge and cupboards and then for her to mull it over and finally come to a decision which would probably be sweets. I would then of course tell her that we don't have sweets at breakfast time so she would say something else she couldn't have (bacon that I haven't time to cook) and so on. I am not going to do that!
This is all after the getting dressed drama as well. She is so fussy about what she wears but not consistently (the same as with the food) she will have a favourite one day and it just HAS to be that but the next it is something else. Yesterday I put some clothes out for her but it wasn't the one's she wanted so I told her to go and get the one's she wanted. Today I didn't get any out and told her that it was her responsibility. She decided in her head what she wanted to wear before checking if it was clean, it wasn't. So we had loads of "where is my dress with the bow" and me telling her it's in the wash so she has to pick something else and then her saying " I haven't got any school clothes" and whining and me telling her that she has, just not the one she wants. After her dad shouting at her to put on ANYTHING even if it isn't her favourite and me telling her that if she isn't dressed I will drag her to school naked, she finally put some clothes on.
The final straw after the clothes and then the breakfast was her medicine. I called her to come and have it and she ignored me. I suppose because I was alreay wound up I lost it. She is now in her room and I have told her not to come out. We are going to be late for school but I am so mad at her that I am scared of what I might do. I don't believe in smacking but have come very close this morning. In fact when I took her to her room it wouldn't surprise me if it hurt her a bit as I was gripping so tightly.
I just don't understand her or know how to deal with her. It is like she is sooooo contrary and controlling! It doesn't seem to really matter what happens as long as she controls it and it's a nightmare.
I am sure someone will come along as say it is a phase but she ALWAYS been like this! She's 5.