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why do so many people flounce then come back?

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whathashappenedhere · 02/03/2005 16:13

Is it a new thing to mumsnet? It seems some mumsnetters are taking offense very easily, swearing they'll never return, get lots of sympathy and carry on posting anyway?

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Yorkiegirl · 02/03/2005 16:14

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DillyDally · 02/03/2005 16:15

Is your surname Blofeldt?

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whathashappenedhere · 02/03/2005 16:15

eh?

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vict17 · 02/03/2005 16:15

I was thinking the same thing. If you're going to go just go!!!!! You can always 'cat# friends and tell them that way.

Gwenick · 02/03/2005 16:16

I recently got accused of doing that on Babyworld - posted on there VERY regularly (worse than on here ) for quite a long time, decided I hated the new forums and said my goodbyes - replied to one or two 'questions' as to why I was leaving and haven't been back apart from to my antenatal group.......... (about 1 month now I think) but at the time (and apparently even now! according to my 'sources' tell me people are still accusing me of attention seeking!

expatinscotland · 02/03/2005 16:18

Dunno. But it does happen all the time. I'm in the same camp, vict. If you talk the talk, walk the walk, but that's just me. I've only ever flounced once from a board but it was so poncey I'd rather watch Parliament live than go back there. And I didn't announce it, I just left and messaged my pals from there in private.

SeaShells · 02/03/2005 16:21

I think it's similar to walking out of a room and slamming the door behind you in RL, people want to say that they are not happy, and they want people to acknowledge that, I don't think they are merely attention seeking, just because at the heat of the moment or due to being genuinely upset, they said that they would never come back, doesn't mean that once they feel better they aren't allowed to come back!

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whathashappenedhere · 02/03/2005 16:26

Of course they can come back. It's the trying to get sympathy thing that irritates me. Especially when it gets dragged onto other threads.

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Gwenick · 02/03/2005 16:28

but why do you always assume it's for sympathy? I wasn't asking for sympathy when I announced I was leaving BW forums - I simply wanted to inform people who I'd debated with on a very frequent basis that I was going - no-one really tried to 'beg me to stay' (as far as I know!) and if they had it wouldn't have made the slightest bit of difference.

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whathashappenedhere · 02/03/2005 16:31

I guess that's the way I've read the ones I've seen on mumsnet. I can understand if a poster was being slagged off by stacks of posters but usually the disagreement is with one or two posters. Why leave because of one or two?

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HappyDaddy · 02/03/2005 19:04

Maybe they come back cos it's the online equivalent of slamming the door and then realising you've forgotten your keys. "I'm off! SLAM! trudge, trudge (bugger), walks back in, "don't say a word!" SLAM! slink, slink.

WideWebWitch · 02/03/2005 19:06

It happens all the time and it always blows over. Like Caligula said, mumsnet is like crack, but worse. I reckon people swear they'll give it up, post to say 'byeee' and then slink back. (I flounced myself once, in the distant past!)

Cod · 02/03/2005 19:09

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Whizzz · 02/03/2005 19:10

Can I just say that I love the word "Flounce"

Flounce to me is Mumsnet !

WideWebWitch · 02/03/2005 19:10

me too whizzz!

MistressMary · 02/03/2005 19:20

And some don't flounce they feel they cannot post for fear of being laughed at and ridiculed.

roisin · 02/03/2005 19:24

It doesn't bother me at all, I think it's just a character thing. I'm not a flouncer, but I quite enjoy watching other people doing it

From time to time I do try and kick my mn habit, and just disappear for a few days ...
But I always come back.

But it is so busy on here these days it's very hard to notice if someone isn't around. No-one misses me when I'm not here, which doesn't bother me. But if I were the sort of person who was bothered by something like that then I would announce my departure.

duster · 02/03/2005 19:38

i logged off the other night quite peacefully.
the 'cliques' of mumsnet, assorted madness and bitchiness all goes over my head. I am placid slow moving sort, who just wants everyone to get along.
However.
Whizzz has a point - if 'Flounce' is mumsnet, perhaps to truly be a mumsnetter you have to flounce at some point.
Here goes.

HELLO.

That's it! I've had enough of real life! I'm going to live in my computer! Aargh!

Baaah! Humbug!

Poshpaws · 02/03/2005 19:48

Not sure who has exactly 'flounced' today. The only 'leaving' thread I saw (well, there were tow) were it seemed to me, valid, external reasons.

If I get a bit tired of the MN falling outs, I tend to just have a break for a few months and not post and then come back ...sort of mini-break away.

Whizzz · 02/03/2005 19:50

I considered flouncing after that thread about what do you remember about Mnetters & no one remembered me. But then I thought I could have flounced but no one would have noticed !

Cod · 02/03/2005 20:13

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Whizzz · 02/03/2005 20:18

Hardcore Enid sounds like some punk band !
I'll try & think of something controversial Cod...

sis · 02/03/2005 20:46

Oh duster, that was a very tame flounce - I think you should hint at the bits of real life that have made you flounce

Cod · 02/03/2005 20:47

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oliveoil · 02/03/2005 20:51

I find flouncing quite amusing. Do you remember Shooting Stars when Vic and Bob got there handbags out and waved them around? We need a emoticons version on here.

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